How do you deal with forced time with old JW friends?

by 5thGeneration 10 Replies latest jw friends

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  5thGeneration

  I'm facing a bit of a dilemma and wondering how to deal with it.

  My fade is as complete as I want to make it but I'm going on vacation and lifelong super JW friends are going to be where I am staying.

  I'm wondering how some of you have dealt with this in the past.

  Do I simply and uncomfortably stay quiet about not attending, going to the meetings?

  Do I just matter of fact state that "yeah, I just haven't been going for a while"?

  Or do I play the sheepish, discouraged, distraught role?

  Going all 'apostate' on them is not an option as I have too much respect for these people.

  Any one have any experience with this and what worked/didn't?

  Thanks,

  5th (of the overlap) Generation

  
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  changeling

  If they ask, tell them you're inactive but happy. No need to "get into it". That stops them in their tracks.

  If they don't, and the conversations are "non-witnessy" and just normal fun, why bring it up?

  Just be yourself. Be happy.That blows their minds. :)
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  5thGeneration

  Good advice. Thx.

  5th
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  leec

  don't play a role ... that's what was wrong in the past. whatever you do, make it real, maybe not letting everything hang out, but no pretending.
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  wheelwithinwheel

  - if he asks if you are going to go to the meeting - tell him your're on vacation - he probably won't say anything and might think you have a point there

  - if he knows or finds out about the fade - adopt a very serious face and tell him you really don't want to get into it

  - watch what you say - lifelong friends have been known to ruin a fade - you wouldn't want to come home to face a J.C.
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  wha happened?

  When I talk to JW's now I let them know I'm inactive and only a handful have ventured beyond that. Most just keep the conversation going.
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  5thGeneration

  Thx.

  I guess if they know already it is better to suck it up and just say I'm inactive.
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  Farkel

  Tell them you have a lot of faults, but not minding your own business isn't of them! (Watch them squirm.)

  Farkel
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  5thGeneration

  Farkel,

  I like it!
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  cameo-d

  Why not steer the topic into a conversation that has nothing to do with JW land. Discuss something else--- big ideas or hobbies, anything that might stir an interest in learning or doing something new.