That's got to be one of the craziest things I've ever heard! And after growing up as a Witness™, that's saying a lot.
I have to think that in most congregations, she would have been encouraged to marry the man, if only to remove the stigma of illegitimacy from her kids. And of course, if he was supporting her and helping her get the kids to the meetings, so much the better. I wonder whose idiotic idea it was to remove a "stumbling block" before any problems ever arose. Hmmm....
Regardless of her reasons, I believe she should be absolutely prohibited from receiving ANY kind of public assistance (welfare, child care, etc.) for those kids. She's intentionally throwing away the only help and support she's truly entitled to. Kudos to the man if he still wants to support her and the kids, but I wouldn't blame him for only doing the minimum the law requires. She appears to have rejected him solely on the grounds of his not accepting HER new beliefs for himself. She is putting the kids at risk, depriving them of an apparently loving father, and disrupting their lives... all in the name of (ugh!) religion! Such nonsense. Maybe if she now had to support those kids all on her own, without any outside assistance at all, she would wake up and see how utterly stupid her actions were. Hopefully, maybe someone with a smidgeon of good sense in the congregation will nudge her to reconsider before it's too late.
People can have all the kids they want, but I (and all the other taxpayers) should NOT be on the hook to feed, clothe, (attempt to) educate, and otherwise support them. That's the parents' job. Abortion is a very touchy subject, but I do believe that birth control in all its many forms should be freely and easily available to all. And if people knew for a certainty that any kids they had would be THEIR responsibility, not anyone else's, it would go a long way towards cutting back on the cavalier way some pop out babies with no concern for how they're going to feed them and take care of them. I know personal responsibility has pretty much gone out the window, but I am disgusted with people who repeatedly have children that others have to care for. And I'm definitely including irresponsible fathers in this, too. I say, "If you can't feed 'em, don't breed 'em."