Finally Erased them OUT of my phone!

babygirl30

It's been about going on 2yrs that I've been DF'd and not even 1yr that I stopped going to the Khall at all...but...I'm proud to say that as of last night I was going through my phone and decided that I needed to just CUT out all those people that didn't matter anymore! You know, the old JW 'friends' (use that term loosely) whose numbers I've held onto all this time and don't need anymore. I mean, NEVER going to bother with these people again. So, I erased em!!!!

Just feels good to say...thanks for letting me share.

leavingwt

I know the feeling. I remember doing that.

miseryloveselders

I tip my hat off to you. Its funny reading your post, cuz I go to the hall and about 50% if not more in there, I could care less about. When you think about it, its ironic cuz you can be in a congregation your whole life hearing all that jazz about love, and then one day realize that when your not at the hall, you don't miss them. When your out of town, you never think about them. When your sick, they don't call you, nor do you call them. Its as if they're dead in the same sense Fredo was to Pacino. I'm happy for you moving on though. Happy your surgery was successful, and you got to communicate with your family on your terms. Wish you the best.

LongHairGal

I can relate to that! Some years after I started my 'fade' from the religion, I looked at my phone book. I got sick of all the whited-out entries and I was constantly reminded of the person and the unpleasant experience that led to my reaching for the bottle of white-out whenever I turned to a particular page. So I realized it was time to go out and buy a new phone book and start from scratch because I have no desire to be reminded of unpleasant experiences and people who really meant nothing. I only have a few JW friends left so I won't make that much of a mess of my phone book again.

These people in my past are no loss since they were conditional friends in the religion and therefore never real friends to begin with.

Heartbreaker

I still leave mine in my phone, just in case they still try to call me for the scoop, the JC, or the DF informant. I don't want to be caught off guard answering them and having to talk.

I can't wait until I'm in the same position as you though!

babygirl30

It's weird how 'matter-a-fact' the whole thing was! Last year I looked at those same names/numbers and thought 'OH...can't erase them, when I get reinstated I will definitely want to contact them' - hahahahahahaha. yeah RIGHT!!! Those people don't give a rats about ME and who I am NOW (not the good lil JW girl they wanted me to be) so they don't deserve anymore room on my SIM card. FUnny the difference a year AWAY from JWs makes in a life.

Case closed.

sd-7

Really? It took you that long? I just got DF'd, and every last one of 'em is ALREADY out of my phone. I kinda didn't like or trust them to begin with, even when I believed in it all. So...if there's one thing I learned from them, it's how to be cold. I learned it very well. They won't have to worry about me being worked up about being cut off from people who have no problem CUTTING me off. Please. There are enough fair weather friends out here. Nobody needs them.

But congrats for finally being able to do that.

isaacaustin

SD-7, how is post-df life going? Have they announced it yet? Are you still attending with your wife at this point?

sd-7

Well, I was there with my wife on Sunday, and--hi isaacaustin, by the way--I will be attending the special assembly day this Sunday. The announcement will be made on the 10th, unless I appeal, which I have no real reason to do. I can't exactly redeem myself by saying "I take it all back, the faithful slave is all that and then some."

My family doesn't know yet, but my wife may have gone out with my sister-in-law, and odds are, given how she runs her mouth, the entire family will know before the day's out. So...having to deal with that fallout is going to be challenging and emotional, but I'm fine for now. I feel no need to obey any JW rules, per se, since I'm "no longer" one, so I might grow a beard or somethin'. But otherwise, I'm hangin' in there.

I actually thought people here were going to start shunning me because now I'm one of you and therefore not special anymore. The "love-bombing" would end, and I'd be left on an endless treadmill of posting and trying to keep up with the "national average" of posts and all the apostafests and so on.

Seriously though, for now, it's the eye of the storm, and I have already experienced too much of the storm itself as it is. So...tough, but I'm enduring.

spawn

I used to get a text from one Elder if he saw me driving past in the car and it used to annoy me until I replied to his last text by telling him to "Get Lost and not bother me again" but in a more colourful way and do you know I have never recieved another Text!!

Finally Erased them OUT of my phone!

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