How Much are Your Conditional Friends Worth? (page 2)

freewilly01

Loosing all those flaky friends is still miserable, you can't help to feel ripped off. I was always there for them always through thick and thin and they just weren't the same .

I went through a morning period it was like a death of them not of me! It was the beginning of a life for me. Still can't believe how many just never gave a damn. What I learned was that many were afraid and intimidated that I left and I understand that.

Friendship not based on performance is way way better and more fun! I really enjoy my friendships now they are way more relaxed and meaningful. I love being in control of deciding who will be a close friend instead of being forced to hang with people you really don't connect with but are just forced to like before.

snowbird

They are afraid!

SD-7 once mentioned how the WT reminds him of an Old South plantation.

The slaves or later tenant farmers knew they were being played, but were afraid to speak out due to the harsh repercussions for doing so.

Also, informants and spies were encouraged to report any signs of dissension.

Why didn't I see those things before?

Sylvia

leavingwt

Sylvia,

It's scary to think how fitting that analogy really is. Yikes.

-LWT

snowbird

Yikes, is right!

LOL.

Sylvia

undercover

Each person's situation is unique.

yea...each situation is in itself one of a kind. What works for one person may not work for another. We give advice based on what we've experienced. Even then, that can change.

I appreciated your original post. It is a powerful message...one that we all need to examine. How far are we willin go to keep friends who wouldn't want to be our friends if they knew what we really thought?

What about family? That one's tougher...and harder to deal with. Even there, they may be a point when we have to make a decision in order to be at peace with ourselves. But that's up to each person and their particular set of circumstances.

nancy drew

If you can't really talk about what is really on your mind honestly and frankly that person is not your friend it's a rude awakening when you understand that every person at the hall has an organizational filter in front of them and if you say anything outside the box a wave of suspicion comes over them you can actually see it. everything started to unravel for us as people began reporting unusual converstions coming from our mouths people we trusted we were called in threatened with apostasy we engaged in our own version of theocratic warfare initally but than decided to walk out the door and never return.

leavingwt

If you can't really talk about what is really on your mind honestly and frankly that person is not your friend it's a rude awakening when you understand that every person at the hall has an organizational filter in front of them and if you say anything outside the box a wave of suspicion comes over them you can actually see it. everything started to unravel for us as people began reporting unusual converstions coming from our mouths people we trusted we were called in threatened with apostasy we engaged in our own version of theocratic warfare initally but than decided to walk out the door and never return.

Exactly.

With an unconditional friend, you can reveal what's really on your mind and how you feel about things, if you'd like to. You can relax and be yourself.

dinah

LWT, that's the problem. You can never relax and be yourself. The sad thing is all of these Witness "friends" don't know each other at all. They know the mask the other is wearing.

leavingwt

They know the mask the other is wearing.

Yes, what a shame. Even many married couples, husbands and wives. It's so sad.

slimboyfat

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