Slow death by poisoning is a bad way to go!
Like that old story about boiling a frog. (Gradual heating keeps the frog from jumping out of the pot).
Not knowing why you are slightly ill or not at your best keeps you from seeking remedy.
What if your Paradigm is Poison? Would you even know it?
First off, what is a Pradigm?
a philosophical and theoretical framework of a scientific school or discipline within which theories, laws, and generalizations and the experiments performed in support of them are formulated;
Huh? What the F**K does that mean?
It means the world view you have, friend. It means the story you tell yourself of how things work. It is your viewpoint and belief system.
What if it has poison in it and you are slowly dying intellectually without knowing you are even sick?
What would your symptoms be?
1.Strong viewpoints, opinions, beliefs, but, life success is minimal; you are troubled, depressed or often angry in general.
2. You see the flaws in everything and offer quick fixes, yet, your everyday existence is a mess.
3. You quickly identify the error in others but fail to achieve peaceful relations with family, friends, loved ones or business associates.
In short, THEY are the problem and you are simply a voice crying in the wilderness; unappreciated, victimized and struggling.
Could your Paradigm be at fault?
What would be the antidote? What would root out the poison pellet? How could you stem the flow of the insidious worm gnawing at the root of your world?
1. Intellectual Honesty: willingnes to be wrong when confronted with error.
2. Skeptical optimisim: willingness to accept new ideas if tested and filtered through rational premises.
3.Refusal to deny reality: never hiding anything from yourself you feel you aren't emotionally ready to accept, but, bravely looking facts right in the eye with a view to meeting challenges by dealing with them.
4. Refusal to divde the actions and beliefs of others into two camps of US vs THEM or GOOD vs BAD or SMART vs STUPID: this leads to a false dichotomy and strawman reasoning. Every group or person thinks they are right. Most people honestly hold their views. By granting to others that they may be honest in their approach you stop demonizing them personally and find a common ground for dialogue.
5.Recognize that "What we Hate, We Become". By fighting a perceived wrong or evil we unwittingly adopt tactics which lower us to their level. Always rising above the negative and reframing each issue in a positive way helps the flow and exchange of ideas.
6.Recognize that the only way to defeat bad ideas is with BETTER IDEAS. Debate should entail comparisons of specifics with the best data being accepted and the least being rejected. Polemic can be mere ad hominem.
7.A Better world is only possible by making each day an opportunity for World Repair. Complaining, bitching, criticising, labeling, makes the world a darker place. Tiny opportunities for praise, encouragement, agreement, help and commonality lead to feelings of trust and support that provide a neutral field for the competition of better ideas.
Ask yourself each day: Do I live in the best of all possible worlds?
Identify what is poisoning yours.
Take steps to use positive action, positive ideas, better ideas, and strong commitment to build rather than destroy; engage rather than divide and improve rather than snipe and erode.