There are a few that would merit being shunned, regardless of whether they are reinstated or not. Particularly, those are the ones that can only think of "When are you going to come back", and especially those who think you are their property. They want you to spend every second in field circus, and they are harsh with everything you do. Just because they get disfellowshipped is not likely to make them any less likely to poke their noses into your business or leach off of you--in fact, I know of one person (yes, the one I studied with) that hounded another disfellowshipped person back into the cancer while he himself was disfellowshipped.
Why do even inactive Jw's play the shunning game?
by AK - Jeff 22 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
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exjw2814
Jeff! Wonderful observation!. I have had the same experience. I was a witness for close to 20 years of my life. And three years later here I am, 100% out of the JW CULT. But it took a good 3 years to get out of it mentally, because it took ALOT of heart/tears and ALOT of research. I'm now a born again Christian and have a very different, and very rewarding beleif system through our Lord Christ Jesus. I cannot beleive how BLINDE I was before. And to see the people I grew up with still in the organization is somewhat depressing. Jesus is the way, the truth, and the light, we need to beleive in him!. The JWS miss out on that, and it's horrible. I know many young people who have left and don't go to meetings, but they are still shedding the "WT tears" as someone previously mentioned. They still beleive in it, they never really left at all. Isn't it SAD? I know. Don't be alarmed if they don't talk to you, or even want to hear why you left. Their brain is wired to be a certain way, and most of them don't wanna see things any differently. I hope all the best!.
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AK - Jeff
Part of what sparked this thread is a recent experience: The wife of a jw whom I have known forever, contacted me on face book with a friend request. I accepted when I recognized the name. I have not seen this woman in 10 years or so I would guess. She had married her jw husband, and she was not a jw. He was disfellowshipped at the time, and as far as I know, still is disfellowshipped. I knew her because at the time I was pioneering, and the sisters had started a 'study' with her [easy target right?], and we would end up going by to 'encourage' her during the week in FS.
She never came into the 'truth'. In fact, I cannot recall her ever attending meetings, though she may have done so sparsely in those days. Four years later or so, I left the 'truth', and in all those years at least, she was not a witness. I do believe that she never was a witness.
So I pm this person with a nice message, asking about her husband and her children who were just babies last time I saw them. No answer. A few weeks go by and I pm her again, suggesting that perhaps FB 'ate' the message that I originally sent, with a big LOL at the end, thus giving her an opportunity to respond without embarrassment. No answer again. I took at a look at her profile to see that she was on FB often enough to see my messages. Yep. Every day.
How weird is that? She contacted me, but then ignores me? This lady means nothing to me to be honest. I just find such conduct odd. Over time I have send several such messages to 'former jws', 'disfellowshipped jws', 'jw's who dropped out at 18 and are now almost senior citizens'. Same response.
This mind control is powerful. More powerful than one recalls.
Jeff