BroGone I totally know where you are on this. I had a major meltdown with regards to the decline of my parent's marriage and how it was not handled properly by the BOE. My mostly irregular mother had been building a case against my inactive father for years. He did not want a divorce and tried to save the marriage. But she's a good cryer and an excellent liar. When my father appealled to the elders to meet with them together to save the marriage he was told "brother, just return to jehovah and the meetings."-----there are many cases similar to yours as daringhart says.
My point is: (and I'm gonna raise my voice here) They are not concerned with truth, justice, fairness, or what is in the best interests of your family. The person who is most active in the org. wins.......always.
What everyone here is trying to do is help you find peace on this........let it go. Your feelings/thoughts are definitely justified. But if you're looking for justice, stop looking. It ain't gonna happen. Trust us on this one.
When we try to make this crooked organization straight we only harm ourselves.
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