Welcome to the board!
I am very analytical by nature and if 2+2 ain't 4, there is no way I can accept that and move on. Yet, I kept thinking that maybe I don't get it just yet and need to "study" more to get the big picture. In the mean time, I started getting the questions of "what my spiritual goals are", the urgency to set such and the commitment to follow through with them.
I'm sure this resonates with most people on this board. I am also very analytical and even though I was raised in, it never added up to me either. I also thought I needed to study more or do more because I wasn't getting the same euphoria as the rest of them. And thats how they get you...rush, rush, rush to salvation by doing more and getting involved as deeply as possible right away. Hurry, hurry before Armageddon comes.
Glad to hear you and your wife were able to talk it out peacefully.