Dancing with some JW friends tonight

by jwfacts 10 Replies latest jw experiences

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  jwfacts

  I was walking past a bar tonight and recongised some old JW friends inside dancing to a live band. I went in an attached myself to them and spent the night with them. It was quite funny as they were very comfortable with me but also exuded unsure guilt about the whole situation.

  It seems to stress JWs when we seem exactly the same as before. I hadn't grown horns or a tail, had not turned red (maybe a little from a couple too many beers), did not have track marks down my arm, look like I have just been released from an asylum, or sprout out tirades against God or the Slave. I look exactly like I did when I saw them a few years ago, was happy and relaxed with them and asked the normal questions that normal people ask each other.

  It is often best around former Jw friends to be happy and relaxed. That is a bigger shock than any doctrinal point that can be raised.
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  troubled mind

  I couldn't agree with you more . It really seems to shock them to find out we have not turned into the monsters their imagination have created . I also think it makes a bigger impression on them than if we try to discuss doctrine because that is what they expect ......normal just throws them off balance .
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  shopaholic

  It is often best around former Jw friends to be happy and relaxed. That is a bigger shock than any doctrinal point that can be raised.

  Very true...I've come to realize the same. Like the saying goes "living well is the best revenge".
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  leavingwt
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  babygirl30

  I actually LIKE running into JWs now...granted they don't speak, but I enjoy their faces when they see me! I'm not knocked up with some dudes illegitimate baby...I'm not smoking cigs...am not fat and sloppy with some bum of a man at my side! -hahahha. If anything, my look has improved (because I FEEL a lot less stress) and my man is a cutie. So I hold my head up HIGH and actually am now comfortable smiling at them
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  jwfacts

  Yes, not all JW's will speak or be civil. I have had some literally run away in a panic on seeing me. But most at least acknowledge me, some speak to me though slightly uncomfortable, and a surprising number speak to me as if nothing ever changed. What I find sad reading experiences on this board is that the ones who should still be friends - people's parents and family - are often the ones that are most unreasonable in practicing shunning.
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  dissed

  In our horse business, we occassionally run into a JW couple who are also in the business.

  She is open and friendly, while he, you would think is about to explode when he sees us. What's funny, is that she could care less what he feels, as her and my wife talk horses.

  She is an excellant horse trainer and we hired her to help with a horse. The Elder husband kept his distance and stays quiet, probably seething that they needed our money. lol

  My wife is always respectful and greets him. While he begrudgingly nods back.
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  cognac

  Thats great jw!

  Sometimes what makes it difficult for faders is that even though a person is d'ffed, you dont actually know if there head is still in it or not so they may just rat you out for talking with them...
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  cognac

  Pressed enter to soon.

  But, its good that they got over it and hung out anyways...
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  Gayle

  You being happy/content is so confusing to them!