Did The Witnesses "Do A Job" On You? (page 2)

highdose

i also discovered that when JW's did jobs for me, they would give me poor standard ( read cheap) products and lousy service too.

In fact in the end i would never hire a JW to do a job for me, i always got an outsider... the result was excellent service and good standard products used.

minimus

The thread's not about JWs doing jobs!

LOL

In how I get along with people, maybe ???. Before I became a witness, I did fine socially. I was involved in school functions. I gave up a sports scholarship,and a free education, though I've made up a bit ground. I actually had a nice healthly group of friends, who were my friends. Not because of FS time, or meeting attendnace, and thus, I was acceptab,le to their social circle.

As far as women, it has caused me to second guess myself. I was respectful and a gentlemen before I became A witness. I've always been told I'm nice. But as a brother, you had to be on 'stage' 24/7/365

What do his prayers say about him ? How's his/her meeting/field service attedance ? Does he have any responsiblities ? And the killer...... What do others say about him/her ? Forget get getting to know a person personally, just base everything thing off appearances and what you see,or what 'others' tell you.

Socially, I get along well with most everybody, and try to see things through others point of view as mch as possible, so I can fit in most anywhere, I think.

The Dubs have messed with me in the sense, that I'm sometimes wondering if I can live up to some impossible standard, or another persons standards. Rather than just people accepting me for me.

As a JW, you never accept people for who they are. You accept them for YOUR standards, and whether the live up to them.

Some of my co-workers standards and friends may not be to what I prefer,but I can still talk,debate, and joke with them. Me may even take in a ballgame. But when it comes to things I may not agree with or care for, then we will go our seperate ways.

I hope I made just a little sense will all that,lol

mindmelda

My husband and I had to make a stand on not working for certain Witnesses...they were consistantly bad about paying. On the whole, the "worldly" people we worked for were better about many things as co workers and employers. It's one of the many reasons we just got sick of the whole JW thing...they're no more honest than anyone else...maybe less so in some circumstances.

leavingwt

Yes, but I'm making a remarkable comeback!

upnorth

I embraced everything a born-in is expected to.

Things I battle with because of being born-in.

Non-emotional, avoid competing, second guess every thought, have no opinion, take no side, excel at nothing, avoided education after high school, turn the other cheek...

No emotional connection to any person.

Sometimes I have to force myself to feel things I know I'm supposed to feel. I know I wasn't born that way, no one is.

Scarred for life

I relate to some of what you say, upnorth. I think being a born-in had some of the same effects on me. And it's hard to "see" it in yourself.

EmptyInside

I've lived a sheltered life, and I put a lot on hold waiting for the new system. I regret wasting so much time. But, I have to get over my fear and live my life now. It makes me sad and angry when ones at the hall tell me they are waiting for this or that until the new system.

freeflyingfaerie

I think its called a mind-f#%& !! The worst kind. I'm in the fetal position in tears with frustration and heartache one day, then very grateful and optimistic the next. Im trying to find more balance and it helps to be around friends and be absorbed in the things im passionate about. Its a grieving process. I think i'll pull through!

Did The Witnesses "Do A Job" On You?

peaches