I daresay everyone here has been in at least one toxic relationship, and that is why we are here.
Have You Ever Been In A Toxic Relationship?
by minimus 30 Replies latest jw friends
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Quentin
Yes...took me a year to get over it....divorce ended it...
Terry, Minimus calls me too. what's up with that?
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ziddina
Cr*p, I was in - all at once - toxic relationships with:
(as Blondie said...) MY parents...
The filthy WTBTS' cult...
An idiotic JW male...
The rest of the brain-, er, "mind-controlled" JWs in my congregation/the entire organization...
I walked away from ALL of them...
Zid
P.S. Terry -
Good one! -
Lady Lee
- Yes - toxic father - extremely abusive - ended when I reported him to the police for sexual abuse and was sent to live with my mother
- Yes - sexually abused by step-father and 3 uncles - ended when I was sent to live in foster care after my mother caught her common-law husband with me
- Yes - toxic foster family - treated like I had committed a crime because my step-father sexually abused me
- Yes - toxic mother - physically abusive and/or neglectful - partly ended when she arranged for me to marry someone I barely knew
- Yes - toxic husband - ended when I commited adultery to get him to agree to a divorce - he got slap on the wrist for 15 years of emotional and sexual abuse
- Yes - toxic religion - ended same time as husband and I was DFed
- Yes - mother again - finally ended when I realized I had enough and stopped playing her mind games
- Yes - toxic girlfriend - emotionally and sexually abusive - ended when she left and found someone else to torment - it was only after she left that I realized how bad it had been
- Yes - toxic second marriage - was going good until I got sick and couldn't work. Then he kept asking me if I was going to "off myself" - packed my bags and left - still married to him but we live 2200 km apart
Now I see toxic people coming and head the other way ASAP.
I have had a good relationship so it hasn't been all bad.
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Elsewhere
If you consider employment to be a relationship, yes, I've been through a few jobs where my manager, or the company as a whole, was abusive.
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nelly136
i left home. (parents)
i got divorced. (husband) i'll claim a 50:50 on that one we both had our faults.
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WuzLovesDubs
Oooh yes...but you know, when you are in them and feeling so trapped you dont realize you have the OPTION to END them. It took me until just recently that I dont have to take shit from ANYBODY including relatives. Relatives you kinda think you HAVE to deal with them? You dont folks. Dont be around ANYBODY who steals your joy. And you do teach people how to treat you and if they treat you like shit and you stay...they will continue to treat you like shit because they CAN.
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flipper
" Have you Ever Been in A Toxic Relationship ? "
Does a chicken lay eggs ? There's my answer.
On a more serious note though - I didn't find the right woman for me until I met Mrs. Flipper back in early 2006 at age 46.
But before that ; after my 19 year marriage ended to my ex-wife a JW in 1998, I was briefly married a year and a half until 2003 to a methamphetamine drug addicted louse who was an emotional vampire trying to suck the life out of me ! Fortunately she left me in late 2003 as she saw I did not use drugs- and she wanted to be with druggies, not a straight shooter like me. She did me a favor.
Then I dated a wealthy lady for a year and a half - thought it was going well - but found out she was cheating with her high school daughter's music teacher behind my back . Didn't find out until I caught her out at a bar with him by surprise one night in the summer of 2005. I confronted her and she told me we weren't a couple anymore. Just suddenly, boom- like that. So we broke up over the phone with me telling her she had disrespected me and our relationship - so I asked her " What do you want to do ? " I continued, " I'm not going to waste my life on you if you are not as committed to this relationship as I am ! " She admitted she wanted to break up, I said, " Fine. Thanks for being honest- finally. "
I think the best way in a relationship is not to disrespect yourself- I found out. We can hang onto an unreality and let people use us- or spend our time more usefully finding someone who REALLY gets us and sees and accepts us for who we are , blemishes and all ! I have found that happiness with Mrs. Flipper. I get her, she gets me. The way it should be
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Elsewhere
> Does a chicken lay eggs ? There's my answer.
I prefer: Does the Pope sh*t in the woods?
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flipper
ELSEWHERE- Hilarious ! LOL ! And those of us who have been in SEVERAL toxic relationships can ask , " Does the pope $hit in the woods while WATCHING chickens lay eggs ? " That's how complicated toxic relationships can be ! LOL ! Glad I can laugh now- looking back, at the time it sucked big time though. We just gotta be survivors man, Peace out, Mr. Flipper
Good one!