Just remember it is the elders who tell their wives...........my husband never told me anything and if I had found anything out I would never have passed it on. I can remember elder's children listening in on phone calls to their fathers and then spreading the information. I never liked hearing that elders from one congregation gossipped to elders from other congregations excusing themselves by saying they did not use any names but gave such detailed info, no names were needed. I told the elders several times that I would rather they announce the details from the platform rather than the twisted things that spread through the congregations. I can remember several times telling those in the car group to stop the discussion or take me home...once they refused so I just got out of the car and walked home, 5 miles.
disfellowshipping announcements
by asilentone 37 Replies latest jw experiences
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yellow
After I was reinstated an elders wife told me that he was so upset about my disfellowshipping and that it was weakness and not wickedness. (why was I disfellowshipped then) I wonder what else he told her, another wake up call in me getting out.
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StAnn
I knew an elder's wife who was more like Blondie. We were having lunch once at her house and her husband got a phone call. This was before cordless phones so he literally went into the pantry closet and closed the door to have his conversation. His wife, Judy, just said, "Someone must be getting disfellowshipped." That was it. She really, truly didn't know who or why. I respected her husband for that and respected her for not pressing him for details.
Re: announcing disfellowshipping, I too think the reason should be stated because, without it, people generally assume sexual immorality. I don't know my status, except that JWs avoid me like the plague, but I guess I was df'd in abstentia. They should have announced, "Serena H. C. was disfellowshipped for changing her mind." That's all I did, changed my mind about being a Dub.
StAnn
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mentallyfree31
One I got in tight with the young rebellious ones a few years ago, nothing was ever a surprise. We knew exactly when all announcements were coming and what they would be and what the person did.
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Lozhasleft
I hated hearing that announcement...just horrible...sick...obscene power...
Loz x
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steve2
Some poor suckers got disfellowshipped on more than one occasion. Talk about slow learners.
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Darth plaugeis
Yes a DF was supposed to be private, but everyone knew every detail from MS's or Elderlet's or Elders themselves, and especially when 2 were announced, usually 2 teens...... Brother Jack and Sister Jill have been DF'd... Wow I wonder what they did.. Real private. I never respected the DF'd arraignment I would talk to DF'd at the hall regardless who saw me.
When I was very young An Elderly Elder close to 100 yrs was questioning me about a situation, he promised he just wanted to know if his gut feeling was right. He promised me no action would be taken. 2 weeks later an entire family was DF'd. I confronted that Elder the same night of the announcement... he told me I learned an important lesson. People lie he said. This from an Elder who was around as a JW in 1914, the Society recognized him as an important Brother. Newspapers had interviews with him. At 15 I learned Trust No ONE! So this is the Truth? Like an asshole I lasted only 20 more years.
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hamsterbait
i was at a hall in the 90s, where the Elduhs hounded people who were missing meetings.
They persecuted them until they DA'd themselves.
One Brother had terrible depression problems, and didnt go for several months.
They asked him to DA until he was prepared to come back!!!
Oh yes this is like: "DA yourself until your depression is getting better and you can face the Kingdumb Hell again, then we can shun and scorn you from walking in the door until you run out at the end with everybody ignoring you."
You catch more wasps with a saucer of honey than a saucer of vinegar. The gibbering Buddies seem to think that the nastier you treat people, the more they will try to be your friend and please you.
DUH
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hamsterbait
The witlesses also ignore Pauls words in his epistle to the Corintians -
He said it was optional if anybody in the congregation wanted to follow his recommendation.
The witchtower makes it compulsory on pain of DF for you too.
I know an elderly couple whose daughter was DF, and they loved her so much and cared about the grandchildren they couldnt cut off contact . they were DF.
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nextdoorgirl
I'd like that exact account where Paul says its optional, please.
My previously Catholic, now JW, mom will likely respond to reasoning that we must follow "the bible" and not men. Please provide. :) thanks