When I was being harrassed and stalked for 10 years by a group of sisters, I prayed about the situation many times.
At first, I prayed all the time that it would stop. It didn't stop. So, I thought perhaps that was a selfish prayer.
I started praying that God would give me the strength to handle the situation. The situation got worse. Then I read an article in the WT that indicated that was also a selfish prayer.
So, I started praying for them - that they would come to their senses, realize they were damaging their own relationship with God and stop. It didn't stop. And I couldn't take any more. So I left.
Yes, they had "won". Not sure what they won, but whatever.....
Anyhow, I still pray all the time. But I don't pray for anything that I need or want. I pray for other people, I pray when I am thankful and grateful for something in my life, I pray when I have a spritual epiphany (of sorts).
I don't think prayers are answered. What's going to happen, is going to happen. Nothing will change that.
I view prayer as comforting, therapeutic. If someone is listening.....that's a bonus. I hope someone is.
(Of course, according to BANE and Alice, all of what I just said is a lie. So, take it however you want to.)