I don't want to sound like I'm whining and for the record, I'm not mad at my parents at all. I love them dearly, and I have many fond memories of my youth despite the JW upbringing. At the same time, I often wonder what it would have been like to play sports during my school days. Or play in a band or belong to an afterschool club, etc.. 1 Cor 15:33 ruined any chance of me ever participating in any of those activities. To add insult to injury, the WTS likes to print articles telling me that they did me and my parents a favor by discouraging those activities. Why? Well, evidently youth who participate in such activities end up getting involved in sexual promiscuity and STDs, or get involved in drug and alcohol abuse. Besides, wouldn't I much rather spend my time pioneering or studying one of the Society's latest publications? Or watching on of the several DVDs that the Society has put out in recent years? Or attending congregation gatherings? Or going to Bible character costume parties? This kid in the Shell commercial is doing something I wish I could have done when I was younger. I was too busy doing the aforementioned things the WT Society encourages youth to do. Do any of you born-ins feel like you missed out on somethings? Even if your not a born-in, did you miss out on anything due to this cancer of a religion.
This commercial illustrates why I envy those who didn't grow up in a JW household.
by miseryloveselders 12 Replies latest jw friends
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NomadSoul
You wanted to play Guitar Hero? lol
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miseryloveselders
LOL I've learned to love Rock n Roll the older I get, and I wished I would have been able to play a guitar back in the day. I play air guitar nowadays though, if that counts for anything. My folks would have NEVER allowed me play a guitar though. That's the demunz favorite instrument.
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NomadSoul
It's never too late too learn. I love the guitar. I love going to live rock band shows. I bought myself a guitar a few months ago and I'm learning the basics so far.
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wasblind
As a person who did not grow up in the "Troof" i had the priviledge of
joining clubs, going to dances, going out for a burger with a fella who asked without
the expectation of marriage, and making friends of my own choosing. All of
this was done under the guidance of my mom. The best way to learn how a
child is , is to see what kind of friends they draw to themselves, and that starts
very early (on the play ground ). From there if you see your child drawing negative
people around them or doing things that's not suitable the parent can help steer that
child in the right direction through out the course of their growing up. The WTS don't
do this with children. They rule children with an iron fist, or kick them out. so sad
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brizzzy
Dance and piano. I took about a year's worth of ballet/jazz/piano/saxophone (also later joined a swing dance troupe in my teens - was with them for 5 or 6 years and even choreographed some for them). My instructors seemed to think I showed a fair amount of promise at it and encouraged me to progress, but my sister got bored with all of them and quit, so my parents yanked me, too, gave my saxophone away, etc. I wasn't allowed to do any extracurricular activities unless my sister accompanied me (I guess maybe they were worried that I was the "difficult" one and that I'd get involved with "worldlies" unless she was around to rat me out).
Strangely, it was a double standard - she was allowed to take up any extracurricular activity she wanted by herself, since they figured she was too goody-goody to make friends outside the bOrg. But she could never stick with anything long. She got bored and quit not only dance and piano, but flute, horseback riding, guitar, drama, and ice skating. Meanwhile, I really loved the arts and was never allowed to stick with them. Now I'm 25 and way too old to ever get flexible again the way I used to be. I have a piano in storage that was gifted to me last year, but my brain isn't a sponge like it was when I was little; I don't pick up music anywhere near as fast. Sucks.
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wasblind
I wish my mom had been alive when the Witnesses came to my door
so she could have steered this grown woman away from these folks.
If my mom was to come back just for one hour i would ask her to whoop
my ass.
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jamiebowers
I know how you feel. I was 12 when my mom started studying, and all of my activities at school, (class officer, student council, etc) not only were no longer important to her but also something to look down on.
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The Finger
I wanted to watch Stingray on Sunday afternoon.
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sabastious
I can't tell you how many times I have heard statements like this from Witnesses:
"I'd LOVE to learn how to play a musical instrament... but it will have to wait for the New Order."
I have to scratch my head.
-Sab