Closer2Fine, loved your essay on motherhood.
I have three kids from my first marriage and my new husband doesn't have any. We've been trying for five years now. Do you think you can rub off on me????
Blessings to you and your family.
Blue
A little story for you guys, I'm a little hormonal
by closer2fine 27 Replies latest jw friends
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bluesapphire
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safe4kids
Closer,
Wow! That was a wonderful piece of writing. You captured so many of the feelings and the wonder of being a mother. I heard somewhere (may have been Erma Bombeck) that being a mom is like forever after having your heart walk around outside your body. How true that is! You wrote:
I want to describe to my friend the exhilaration of seeing your child learn to ride a bike
I was at a movie a year or so ago, and there was a scene where the father taught his son to ride a bike and the little guy was so incredibly proud of himself, flying down the street yelling: "I'm doing it! I'm doing it!" and immediately, IMMEDIATELY I flashed back to when I taught my daughter to ride. Tears came out of nowhere remembering her joy and my sense of bittersweet happiness for her...bittersweet because every little step they take is one little step away.Ok, sorry to get sappy here but I think most of the moms and perhaps some of the dads? will understand.
Dana
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GoldDustWoman
Closer,
Simply lovely.
Your writing touched me today.
Thank you.
Andee
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BoozeRunner
C2F....Simply beautiful!!!! Can we get this published?
Boozy
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think41self
WOW CLOSER
I couldn't have said it better myself. You go girl
think41self
It's my party and I'll cry if I want to!
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Undecided
Hi Closer2fine,
Very beautifully and truthfully written. I will never experience anything as wonderful as my kids.
If you were a man how would you handle this situation. My step grandson's girlfriend is pregnant. He or she doesn't know for sure if it is his or another guy's baby. They broke up for a while and she had sex with this other guy, but it could be either my grandson's or the other guy's within the time frame. He just turned 18. I can't imagine his feelings right now.
Ken P.
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closer2fine
Oh guys!! Thanks for thinking I had all that talent to write that piece That was forwarded to me by someone in my mommies group! Sorry if I mislead you guys. It just touched me so much I wanted to share it with you all.
closer
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Princess
Thanks for posting that Closer, I remember reading it in a magazine. Sounds like all the moms here are in agreement, that story is right on.
Congrats on your pregnancy! Having two is amazing, it just seems right. Mine are five and three and we have a ball.
Princess
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LoneWolf
A beautiful piece indeed. I like to add a little from the standpoint of a man.
I'll never forget the first date I went on with my little freckle-faced girl. It changed my life.
She was very young and very shy. I couldn't get a word out of her on the way to the drive-in movie, which was about 25 miles away. The suddenly, right out of the blue with no warning at all, she turned to me and said with breathless voice and shining eyes, "You know, I'm afraid that my two older sisters will have the whole world populated before I have a chance!"
I about choked with laughter, but at the same time I thought that this was about the most beautiful thing I'd ever seen. She was so young, and yet so eager to meet life head on. I knew at that moment what I wanted to do with the rest of my life. I wanted to do all I knew how to see her realize her dreams and enjoy her fruitage.
We waited two years before we married, and no, it wasn't a shotgun wedding. We were both still virgins. But man, how much we didn't want to be!
A few weeks after we married, she was pregnant in spite of our trying to postpone kids for a few years. We were using foam, and I think all that did was help get her pregnant. A second child was born a year and two weeks after the first, so we knew to forget the foam and used another method. That worked.
But after five years, the youngest wasn't a little baby anymore, and she got restless. She wanted another. This happened three times at five year intervals. This made 5 children now, and I figured that would satisfy her. But no. Eight years passed and she came to me. "Just one more?" she asked, looking up into my eyes. How could I refuse?
One big thing made the difference I think. I knew that I could never be happy unless she was, and that meant that she would have to be able to enjoy those kids and not be run ragged by them. Therefore I tried to be as much of a hands-on father that I could. They were to respect their mother, or else.
Now most of the kids are grown, but the spirit of the family is still the same. My son respects women, as his father showed him how and why. My daughters are multi-talented and have been trained to think for themselves, for the simple reason that I knew that there was always a chance something would happen to me and they would be on their own. That's paid off many times.
The end result is that even though we are not rich or famous, I feel like I'm the richest man in the world. I have been a husband and a father, two of the most exquisite privilages a man could have, and have long felt that I'm ahead of the game of life. If I were to die tomorrow, it would be with a smile on my face and a "thank you" to our creator for allowing me to see the things that I have.
I guess you could say that I've come to realize that I too am a part of the equation, and that is enough.
LoneWolf
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bigfloppydog
Closer loved your story on motherhood, brought tears to my eyes, how touching and so true. I being unable now to have no more children, reflected back to when mine where young, the first of all things, walking, talking,smiling, etc. I still remember and I cry sometimes because for me that will never happen again, and yet even though mine are 27yrs and 23yrs, I Still remember those days as if they were yesterday, and feel an emptyness within of not starting all over again and having another baby. I guess that's why we get grandchildren,then we can kind of start all over again. But with grandchildren there is no 2a.m. feedings. You just love them for any time that you see them, I call that good quality time for us both.