My mother was the first generation of her family "white enough" to go to school. But that didn't stop her family members from becoming educated. They educated themselves at home and eventually some even received PhDs and became college professors at Black colleges. They were extremely well educated and when my grandfather died, the first thing I wanted was the books that he learned from. I still have his French textbooks, Geography, etc. They're from the 19th century but they're very good. If you want an education, you have to do whatever you have to do to get it.
Regarding schools, I have special needs kids and the schools try to shaft them every chance they get because they can't complain about it. In my son's old school, they changed my son's diagnosis in their records and said he wasn't autistic and then took the funds that were supposed to go to him for special accommodations for autism and used them to repave the parking lot. They did this with all of the autism money. I contacted my state representative about it but don't know exactly what they did to the school. ( All those neurologists my son has seen over the years who say he's autistic, geez, if only they were as smart as those administrators in the public school system. )
Special needs kids, black kids, hispanic kids, and poor kids all get shafted because, IMO, the powers that be in the school system think that the parents are too dumb and uneducated to fight back.
I agree with Terry on most of what he said. Regarding a rational approach for change, I think the "race" box should be removed from every form and every application in the nation. We are all Americans and should simply refer to ourselves as American. If we want to preserve and celebrate our ethnic culture at home, that's great. But so far as the outside world is concerned, we should all just see ourselves as fellow citizens. No special programs for anyone based on ethnicity.
BTW, when I lived in NC, I put my son in day camp in Raleigh one year. He tried to play basketball with the black children but they wouldn't even speak to him. The kids segregated themselves.