Out and feeling lost, with no friends? Have faith! (my uplifting experience :D)

by teel 10 Replies latest jw experiences

  • teel
    teel

    Maybe not many of you remember my anguish through the last year since I joined JWN. In the meantime I lost my wife (the official divorce is due in ~two weeks), lost all my friends (thank God no family though, except the wife), battled the WTS and sort-of lost. Just like most of you when you got through this experience I was lost and confused, coult not found my place in life.

    I owe much gratitude to this board for giving me the much needed information and support that I am not alone, and what I'm feeling is not something unusual. However what actually happened after that was really unexpected for me. Just as everything seemed lost, new friendships started to emerge, from the most unexpected sources. I could not have planned it better for the life of me.

    Generally these people don't know anything about what they actually did to me. They were the key for freeing me completely from the clutches of the Society. I am still sad about the loss I have suffered for the sake of a cult, but I feel I have stepped forward from that infamous state of ex-JW marked by bitterness and need for vengeance, to the blissful state of ex-ex-JW, where I can relate my experience to anyone, help people, but with a more lucid mind (imo).

    So what is "uplifting" about this? I somewhat doubt those people came by some divine guidance. People need friends. I have not fully realized this until now. Just like me, they were also looking for a friend - even if they did not know about it. If you are like me, feeling lost in a strange world, know that there are people out there looking for someone just like you to be their friend.

  • ziddina
    ziddina

    Teel!! Thanks for posting this = VERY encouraging!!!

  • Hopscotch
    Hopscotch

    Thanks teel that is really an uplifting experience. I'm very happy for you that you have been able to find new friends and move on from the JW experience. It gives me hope.

    All the best

    Hopscotch

  • Evidently Apostate
    Evidently Apostate

    feels good to have unconditional friends doesnt it? congrats on you moving on

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    Thank you, teel, for the heartrending and -warming post. I can relate totally.

    All the best,

    CoCo

  • jeanniebeanz
    jeanniebeanz

    This place helped me sort it all out too, Teel. Glad that we all found someplace to vent and learn while we re-discovered 'normal'. It does get more 'normal' with the passage of time, but it's never the same.

    Jean

  • Scarred for life
    Scarred for life

    Great post, teel. Thank you. I needed to read that.

  • Hadit
    Hadit

    Thanks for sharing Teel! I'm sorry for your losses but am very happy that you are finding yourself and real friends!

    It goes to show that even in our darkest moments we just never know what awaits us around the corner. It gives us all hope.

    I wish you all the best with your new friendships and your new life.

    Hadit

  • mamalove
    mamalove

    I can definitely relate! I had a few non-JW friends when I exited, but it wasn't enough to make me feel less alone. Making friends feels great. And maybe when you are ready, you can start dating a little bit....coming from a fellow almost divorced person, it isn't scary either, and you can have alot of fun meeting new people and getting to do fun things. Hang in there, life gets really good after the storm settles! ((HUGS))

  • man in black
    man in black

    excellent comment, I really appreciate your thoughts !

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