Absolutely get you money straight before you stir up this pot. We live on money, not ideals. Save your confessions till you have a nice fat saving account. It takes a lot of money to move out and be independent. At least three or four thousand. More if you don't have a good full-time job. I would also advise having enough income to have your own place. Living with a roommate can be awful, even if you think you know them well. Ask any married person. Tough enough even if you are in love.
DA'd youth... How did your parents respond?
by bottleofwater 15 Replies latest jw experiences
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yknot
Dude....
Get yourself established financially (ie money for deposit- rent, water, electricity, garbage etc first and have enough tucked away to cover next month too)
LOOK INTO COLLEGE OR VOCATION SCHOOL!!!!!!! (even if it is just a class or two at a time)
change congregations (ie move pub card)
Become 'inactive' until you know you won't have to rely on parents for financial help.....
change congregations again if need be to create 'distance' from parent's congo.......write letter to that BOE just simply saying at this time you feel it is necessary to DA yourself and that no shepherding is requested..... don't write anything else just DA, no calls and goodbye.
From there whom you tell beyond that last congregation is up to you ...... sometimes silence is golden, so don't go throwing it in your parents face until pushed to the point...... let them and you have a peaceful relationship. You can indulge them in some theocratic banter a bit to keep them satisfied and asking too many questions.
Hugs and Hopes for your success!
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bottleofwater
I'm in college fulltime Monday and Wednesday. Other days I'm pioneering. I finally told my parents that I don't want their stupid forced pioneering on me and that I want to go to college and work.
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Invetigator74
What was their response to that?? I was 19 when I DAed myself, but I had already joined the Armed services on a delayed entry program. I had 2 1/2 months of tension until I left the home. I not suggesting to join the service, but as nely136 stated:
"preparation and being able to support yourself is a must. if you've been offered a job as a manager then that would be worth investigating, especially I there may be help with finding accomodation attached or at least enough money to support yourself in finding somewhere. There is no shame in delaying if it gives you a little time to make sure bases are covered."
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
Waterbottle,
Take the time to plan your future carefully. I can assure you that at 19 you have many years ahead of you. By the way, armageddon isn't coming tomorrow, and don't let the old JW mentality pressure you to rushing into anything... before examining everything.
I understand how it feels like every moment trapped in the bOrganization feels like an eternity. Good luck with a successful, happy escape into your future. I don't know if anybody has already posted this youtube, but here's something I found today and thought of you and any other gay JWs trapped "in"...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TsWHBdVuMhA
I thought that at the conclusion, Phillip should have added, "Oh, and Jehovah's Witnesses aren't the truth. They are a hateful, poisonous cult." Unfortunately, he didn't.
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