Is this weird or what? (page 2)

GLTirebiter

I think you said it right. When that time comes, you will be there for her, not grudgingly, and not for only a while. Blood runs thicker than Watchtower!

Yup. That's what I thought too everyone. I knew my mom was "off balance" but geez, this sounded way out there. My sister said that "It is sad to think that our own mother would turn away our help when so many older people would just like to have someone visit them let alone have a safe place to live with family." I think that if she did live with us, she'd demand us not to have a christmas tree. lol. or stay in her part of the house during thanksgiving. lol. With my mom, I could totally see her doing that. But If I told my mom that I was going to the meetings and getting back into it, she'd definately start packing her bags and wait for us to pick her up. lol. So sad really. Thanks everyone for your comments.

cognizant dissident

You might remind her that it is YOU who visit her every day and take her for breakfast. Ask her how often the brothers do. Ask her if any of them have offered their homes to her "when the time comes".

Then just wait and let her eat her words. You can always say a silent "I told you so" to yourself or out loud if you want. If the time does come for her to move in with you, you might want to find out if Moshe is correct and she has signed over her estate to the WTBTS. You might want to insist she changes that before you take her in, as it is only fair that you should have power of attorney and some compensation for the expense and effort of looking after her.

I know you see it as an act of family love and aren't looking for compensation, but family love should flow both ways. If it is loving for you to take care of her, then it is loving for her to take care of you with an inheritance, no matter how small. It is the principle of reciprocity.

exwhyzee

I agree with sooner... I was thinking the same thing. Poor Mom is still living with the illusion that the Society promotes about the brotherhood. I think JW's are generally good and decent people and mean well but for her to expect those in her congregation to feed and bathe her on a long term basis , is totaly unrealistic.

For her to say this to you is pretty hurtful and insulting but it may be her way of dealing with her fear of the future and her dissapointment that you didn't continue as a Witness. It's the only bit of power she has over you now. She may just be talking this way to get your sympathy. 'Poor me....my own daughters have turned against the truth and all I have left is my spiritual family" If she brings it up again (and she will) you might gently tell her that after your last conversation, you were giving the matter some thought and that although it hurt to think that she would rather have someone from the Hall care for her, rather than her own daughter, you will do your best to understand and respect her wishes in the matter if that's what she really wants. Ask her if she's got someone at the hall who has agreed to care for her and for how long she thinks they will look after her. Ask if they will do it for free or will they be charging her? Will they let her live in their home or will she be staying at hers.

Perhaps if she thinks of literal details, she'll be more realistic about it. (just my two cents)

sspo

The first thing the elders will do is to contact you and your brother to take care of your mother, quoting scriptures that it's your responsibility first.

They are too busy knocking on doors, they could care less about orphans and widows.

No one will feed her and give her baths... we know better than that.

You are a good daughter.

miseryloveselders

The first thing the elders will do is to contact you and your brother to take care of your mother, quoting scriptures that it's your responsibility first.

They are too busy knocking on doors, they could care less about orphans and widows.

No one will feed her and give her baths... we know better than that.

You are a good daughter.

You actually beat me to this. In every situation I've ever known when a publiser was unable to take care of herself, the congregation lead by the Elders would make it a point to state that its primarily the immediate family's responsibility to take care of her. To be fair, if the unbelieving family members have a good enough relationship with people in the congregation, there will be some publishers who'll do things for her, and they'll do it more than just occasionally. Some of them have good enough hearts they'll make her a priority on some days of the week. Not to mention some publishers actually count this as field service time. There's a couple older sisters on my radar that I look out for, but make no mistake about it, the primary responsibility of taking care of them resides with their family. I've got my own older folks that are starting to become more dependent on me and my siblings.

nicenice

Anyway, independence is necessary for everyone.

bobld

When they find out your Mother has a lot of money they will take good care of her for the l$$$$$$$$$$$$t.If she is poor FORGET IT.

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Is this weird or what?

wasblind