Letter from elders

by Cynisister 14 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Cynisister

  Hello all,

  The local elders have been trying to visit me (my hubby still attends meetings and he has told them I don't wish to speak with them), they left a copy of a Watchtower (on helping inactive ones to return) in my door when I was not at thome, and this last Sunday asked my husband if it's OK to write me a letter saying this is what they have to do. They can't freely stop by as we have large dogs that would keep them out.

  Does anyone know if this is going to result in my being df'd?? I don't want that to happen yet as my husband's parents who are quite elderly, would be devastated. At their age it would be cruel to put this upon them, as we see them often.

  Should I worry?

  Thanks, Cynisister
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  jay88

  This is interesting,..... The Org. has Grown-Ass people, who I am sure are fundumentally good people worried

  about being ostracize.

  You will not get df'd. You are free to go as you please, as long as you don't go to them with your problems

  The elders are making a record of their activity, for the next CO visit which is probably within the next couple months.(other than that you are as free as a bird)
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  sir82

  Just them writing a letter doesn't sound threatening - of course, you won't know until you actually receive it.

  Just seems a bit odd though - if you are so concerned about being disfellowshipped, why post your photo on the world's most notorious apostate web site?
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  leavingwt

  Send word to them that "you're fine" and that you "appreicate their concern". However, "you'll call them if you'd like a visit".
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  Soldier77

  whatever you do, do not give them details or share with them your thoughts or current views. Let them write their letter, just don't respond. You owe them nothing.
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  RubaDub

  Cynisister ...

  I don't quite get the question. Why would you think you would be DF'd? Just saying you do not wish to speak to the elders is not a grounds for being DF'd.

  Unless you explain the specifics (your husband has told them you have apostate thinking, your husband has told them you celebrate holidays, etc.) there is no way anyone here could determine if DF'ing was on the horizon. But in your case, you probably don't want to explain the specifics anyway since if you were found out to be here, that would be a strike against you. As was mentioned by Sir82, I also am not sure why you would want to put your picture on here. Seems odd to me.

  Anyway, if they are giving you the Watchtower about helping inactive ones to return, it doesn't sound like they are looking to cut your throat.

  Rub a Dub
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  alanv

  The disfellowshipping of course depends if you have done anything wrong from their point of view.

  If you simply privately disagree with their doctrines, there is nothing they can do providing you don't tell them or others about your true feelings.

  If they think you will be bad mouthing the org then they will do what they think is necessary with or without you.

  So basically don't give them any ammunition.
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  fokyc

  I am extremely surprised that they wish to write to you;

  normally they are advised NOT to put anything in writing.
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  Think About It

  Hi Cynisister.........haven't seen you post before, thought you were new, but see you have been a member for 2 years. Welcome back. I agree with those who think the elders are just going thru the motions on inactive ones to prepare for the CO visit. You only get DF'd for what JW elders would see as being unrepentant violation of WTS rules. You can be inactive and still not do anything to get DF'd. (at least for now) I'm sure you will watch your P's&Q's to avoid dealing with them.

  Think About It
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  yourmomma

  Im going to have to disagree with the posters who are saying "Just saying you do not wish to speak to the elders is not a grounds for being DF'd."

  I know of a person who was DF'd because he told elders who came to his house he didnt want to speak with them. Now, of course, this could have been a local thing, so the posters could be right, but I think we all know, the elders can do what they want.

  Also, there has been rumors that inactive ones who refuse to meet with the elders for sheparding are considered as "disassociating themselves".

  While this is still at rumor status, the elders in my area have at least done this once, so I have a hard time thinking they acted on their own. But it is of course possible.

  So my point is, if you dont want to get DF'd, basicly do what leaving WT said. Say you have personal problems or better yet femal emotional problems, that will sending them running.

  We are seeing a tightning of the grip from the governing body, they are phasing out the "family buisness" part of being DF"d and becoming more like Scientology, so it would not suprise me if they get rid of inactive ones who refuse to meet with the elders for sheparding.