My eldest son (40) and his JW mom (in here 60,s) can not have A
decent conversation before he storm off in anger. I have told him
all famlies have their problems, we are no different. But for years
he have told me his mom is not normal, so today he E-mail this
by CYNDI LOPEZ ( who is miss Lopez, I do not know), but it
fits my ex-wife to A tee. Here is A case when people become
JW,s with mental issues, it only compounds the problem.
Narcissistic mothers do not have children for the same reasons the
rest of us do. They do not look forward to the birth of their child
because they can,t wait to see what they look like or what type
of personality they will have or who they will become. No they
have children for one reason only, More mirrors. They have children
so that the children will love them unconditionally, not the other way
around. They have children to do things for them. They have children
to reflect their false images. They have children to use, abuse and
control them.
These mothers end up resenting all the work that goes into raising A
child, having no use for them unless they are achieving, doing
something or otherwise reflecting their false image onto them. Children
are a nuisance to them, taking precious time away from their own
agendas. They don,t like to have to shop for clothes for the children,
prepare meals( my kids told me after the divorce, we did not know
mother could cook), do their laundry, drive them to friends house,
throw parties for the kids, or protect them from abuse.
They will use their kids as slaves. They will delegate all household
chores to the children as early as possible. They will insist that
they pay for their own personan items and clothing as early as
possible. Older children will become resposible for younger
children.( we had four kids). No matter how many of her
responsibilities her children take on, it will never be enough
or be done well enough. They expect perfection and of course
they train their kids to believe that they are the ideal mother.
These mothers steals their kids childhoods, identites and future
healthy relationships. It is incredibly difficult and painful to
acknowledge that your mother never loved you without blaming
yourself- she raised you to blame yourself for everything.
