If you take this experience and compare it to grade school and jr hs girls' behavior, it would be the same.
It's very childish.
For the first time...
by MrFreeze 13 Replies latest jw experiences
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NewChapter
I too have wondered if I'm being shunned. I'm pretty sure I've been marked by a number of dubs. One of them was a friend that I saw several times a week. She just dropped me one day like a piece of trash. She wouldn't tell me why. When I tried to talk to her it was like she was looking through me. B tch. I had not even done anything wrong. I learned she told someone else that she was concerned for her own spirituality in my presence. Wow, I didn't take that well. I had not said anything overly negative, But I had questions. I never said I wouldn't accept the answer to my questions, I was humble, but no one, including elders, could actually answer the questions. For instance:
If we should never blame Jehovah for the bad things that happen to us, why should we always thank him for the good?
If I have trouble with my child, or work, or bills--and someone on stage talks about how Jehovah has "blessed" them with a good job, obedient child, husband, fill in whatever here---does that mean Jehovah DID NOT bless me??
If I shouldn't expect an answer to my prayers, why should I pray?
Soon after, other friends quit calling and stopping by. The other day, I took that huge FB step (LOL) deleting JW's from my friends list. But I had to notice, many of them had already deleted me.
So, as it stands, I'm not sure what is up. I have never treated a "weak or inactive" this way, but maybe that is why I am here today. I've never had to aggresively ignore a DF'd person, because they always took the first step. However, I had a new neighbor that had been DF'd before I met him. He introduced himself and "warned" me. He was in his FORTIES. Baptized at 13 and DF'd at 14! I always spoke pleasantly with him He was a good neighbor, and gave me barbecue! FOURTEEN! FFS. I'm supposed to punish him for a decision he made 30 years ago, and no one even died. Even worldly courts don't do that.
But, on the other hand, I did put my foot down with an old friend turned apostate. I want to feel bad about it, but honestly, her ideas were so whacked I don't think we could even be friends today. She thought "the lord" spoke to her dog. It was crazy, and I don't do well with talk like that.
I can only say this. For 20 years I prayed that my family would embrace thetruth. They never did. I get to keep them. I am so fortunate that Jehovah didn't "bless" me. I'm so sorry for those of you that have to let go so much. It is heartbreaking. I helped and studied with 2 people that eventually got baptized. I suppose they won't speak to me either. Could an announcement have gone out without my knowledge?
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DJPoetech
I remember a sister avoiding rolling her full grocery cart into the short line I was in.
Just had to shake my head.
DJP
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MrFreeze
Sorry to hear about that NewChapter. The whole shunning thing sucks.