I have a mother in law that doesn't like me because I'm not an elder and I don't study enough.... I think worldly people have bigger problems in their marriage! Did you ever just want a "normal" family? I don't have to celebrate Christmas, but I just want people that care about and accept me for who I am! Is this just my experience or do others feel this way?
I just want a "normal" family
by Hangin_on 12 Replies latest jw friends
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DanaBug
Maybe it seems like "worldly" marriages have more problems because they're not afraid to get divorced or leave if it's really not working. Some Witness marriages I've seen were clearly not happy or even functional, but they were stuck; unless one of them was willing to have an affair to get out of it.
I just feel like a "worldy" family would love me but a witness one hates me!
In my experience, this is true. "Worldly" people don't have a ridiculously high standard to judge you by, they tend to just accept you the way you are. Witnesses on the other hand measure your worthiness as a friend by how "spiritual" they think you are: service, meeting attendance, commenting and studying for meetings, reaching out for more responsibility, etc. But none of those things are a true measure of how good a person you are. It's a shortcut for them and superficial. Your mil sounds really shallow.
P.S. I want a normal family too! But I'm happy with the little one I've made for myself.
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boyzone
Hangin' on
You're not loved precisely because you're not a strong JW. Love is only extended on a very conditional basis and you aren't measuring up in their eyes. It makes no difference if you're a nice guy or not, the Society call the shots on this one.
However many worldly families would love and accept you for being a nice guy which would let you be yourself and blossom into the genuine person you should be.
Its very stressful trying to be who you're not.
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