I don't think it is loving when they are supposed to snitch on each other on penny ante items. You look at porn, smoke, buy a scratch off, buy a couple of silver or gold coins, spend a night with a member of the opposite sex, or something to do with the holidays, they are trained to snitch. They will tell the "sinner" to report the "offense" to the hounders, wait a short time, tell the hounders, and make sure the "issue" gets settled. All the while, they refuse to snitch on people that molest children and silence the victims, or kill babies (including the one infamous case where they ate one)--in the name of upholding the reputation of the religion. Neither situation, and especially both simultaneously, is loving.
I don't think it is loving when they are hounded to do field circus. They do a certain amount, and they get hounded to do even more. Never mind that it wastes time and money (which should be invested or spent wisely, to prepare for retirement or to get ready for a currency collapse, or to enjoy while you are still here). Rather, they are ordered to waste more money they don't have so they can get gas for field circus. When they level off, they are hounded "You can do more. What are you going to tell Jehovah when he asks you why you didn't do more?".
I don't think it's loving to not allow others to prepare for the future. Now, whether you believe your currency is going to collapse (some already have, and the Swiss franc is remarkably stable) is up to you. But, it is fallacy when they keep telling the witlesses to not prepare for retirement because they will be in paradise by that time. Back in the 1960s and 1970s, people were told not to attend college. Again, whether you view college as the wisest investment these days or not is up to you. However, to coerce people to not attend college solely so they can do more field circus is not loving. That field circus does nothing to make one wealthy, protect one's wealth, or better use one's wealth so they will not have to waste it in some future time. Nor does it prepare them for a future hardship that could well happen. Yes, they believe things are going to get very tough--then why in hell aren't they encouraged to prepare for those tough times in ways that might make it not so hard?
I don't think it's loving when the witlesses are told what they have to believe. They are not simply given one side of the story and then allowed to research it on their own. They are told that they can and do submit questions to the Filthful and Disgraceful Slavebugger, but such questions actually result in Brother Hounder collecting them into the back room. Fact is, they are supposed to believe in AND TEACH the bad doctrines until the Filthful and Disgraceful Slavebugger itself changes them, even if they can prove such doctrines wrong using their own Bible. This is not like being told "College is a scam", and then being allowed to dig into the matter on their own. They are told that college wastes time that should be used for field circus. And expected to take their word for it instead of wisely researching all sides of the matter.
And the few that are genuinely loving are usually pushed out of the religion.