Welcome, Jwmanager!
I'm not a jw; "failed" my "studies" and did not progress so am probably bad association. Sorry for the tough times you're going through. I can partly understand as I went thru a messy divorce when my kids were small and then raised them as a single parent with a number of disruptions from the ex - and also trouble with my own family.
Still, looking back, it really is a time that I'm grateful for. I grew up a lot as a person and if I'd stayed married I'd never have gained the confidence, independence, perspective etc that I have now.
I devoutly hope that you and your wife will grow and gain from this, and impart that strength to your children.
Retro