by jerome 22 Replies latest social relationships
How long have you been seeing her? Be careful. Not to sound paranoid or anything, but I'd be careful how close you get to her. If she's a j.w. then she's living in her own little world. I know, I use to be in my own little world too!!! If you haven't invested yourself emotional deep, then I'd stay clear of that relationship.
Let me just can......can you say *therapy*!
I'm sorry! I meant to type.........
Let me just say........can you say *Therapy*!!!
I hate when that happens!!!
ha ha tinker...i'm with you because i'm saying therapy, too!!!
hi my name is n8 and my gf is a JW. like someone posted earlier, my hope is that she is able to 'break the rules' and date me. secretly, of course. we have been dating for over a year and because of our age and maturity, I'd consider this a very serious relationship. i'd honestly marry this girl. the biggest roadblock is the corrupt belief she has been brain-washed into believing. she knows how intelligent I am and how stubborn I am. shes also very adament about her beliefs. I've mangaged to get her to come to a few friends birthday celebrations. haha I know I'm bad. I've also had my share of the lion's den and visited her kingdom hall. I have no intentions of ever joining of becoming a JW. I DO however have faith thar her eyes will one day be opened. the Holy Spirit is the only one that can make this happen but I believe I can be the vessel. help. how would I even begin to talk to her?? I ask questions. a lot. I want to start small, and I DON'T want to lose her. any help is welcome and I will start by buying or dLing the pdf of the COC book.
Welcome n8.
You will find countless stories such as yours in the relationship section.
It is possible, yes, that you could be the vessel that brings her the truth. Then again, statistically, you have to be prepared to lose this battle.
Best advice: Ask questions that make her THINK for HERSELF. Cognitive dissonance.
Also, there are many helpful questions sites... just Google "questions to ask Jehovah's Witnesses".
Be prepared for heartbreak.
Best wishes.
Baba.
haha ouch. but yeah I wuz kind of expecting that. I probe and pry a bit but she gets really defensive. we even had a discussion on disfellowship because her friend (a JW) became pregnant and then married and wuz kicked out. I think because of counseling and all this other stuff, they slowly let that girl back in the KH. she told me she'd receive similar treatment if they found out about me. she even freaked one day when JW's came to my door, and my mother told them we're ok and her son was dating a JW. she worried that my mother would slip her name and then she'd be in a heap of trouble. just the look of fear on her face saddened me about how real this really was. thank you for the input and I will definitely ask questions!
Give her some mind blowing oral sex and then when she lies there satisfied and smiling tell her "Sorry- according to the WT I can't do this for you anymore."
...my hope is that she is able to 'break the rules' and date me. secretly, of course.
....i'd honestly marry this girl.
.... how would I even begin to talk to her?? .
Just so you can see this clearly, you already talk to her on a regular basis.
You cannot honestly be ready to marry her and not be addressing the issue.
I am sure you mean, "How do I get her to understand the truth about 'the truth' ?"
Just her dating you gives hope that she is on her way out. But you have to put up
with the guilt and the back-and-forth feelings she will have.
I tend to give standard advice. Here it is: read COMBATTING CULT MIND CONTROL
and RELEASING THE BONDS from Steve Hassan (freedomofmind.com or Amazon)
and get her to read CRISIS OF CONSCIENCE by Raymond Franz, former member of
the Governing Body of Jehovah's Witnesses (commentarypress.com).
Just marry her and nobody here will say I told you so! hehehe!
I would say you should convince her JW parents that they are wrong first. She will fall in line after you get her parents straightened out. The world loves a hero. Good Luck.
