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Aussie Oz

I know i haven't posted much about my kids here lately...

Well, my sone is hell bent on marrying his JW girlfriend by the time he is 19. He doesn't want to think about whether the JWs are true or not. He just sees his goal. girl=sex. (that is, sex without trouble from the elders that is). He is not an 'alter boy' and gets up to hijinks but keeps a closer control i think. Remember he did get busted with a former worldly girlfriend.

I right up front told him to have as much sex (safely) as he can...try before you buy. That its none of the elders business. My motivation? Maybe he/they, will realize that living a life at odds to the WT might turn out to be more appealing.

I raised his wedding. How does he feel knowing that his father will be 'forbidden' to attend? That he wont be 'allowed' to have his dad there? I put it to him plain that i fully expect to not be at the reception but i still want an invitation. I did say however that i DO expect to be at the KH to see my son get married. I will not raise a scene and i do not want to dampen his day. I hope it gives him food for thought.

I dont see if much these days, so when he does visit i don't hammer him.

As for daughter... Well, i do know (from her internet usage at my home) That she likes emo fashion and has been googling the contrecepive pill. I think it is time to have another (i had a BIG chat about sex a couple of months ago) chat.

I am inclined at this point to see if she wants to come live with me. It is obvious that she would like to live a life different to what the WT and her mother would allow. While i dont want her having sex at her age, it is clearly on her mind and i would like to provide her with a home where she is free to develop into who she chooses to be with a safety net. Goodness knows how she would be labelled as rebelious if she tried to be 'normal'.

Mother has her reigned in a lot tighter than our son was...she is paying for his indescretions last year i think.

sigh...

oz

Curtains

hey Aussie I feel for you man

DesirousOfChange

It's a tough balancing act: Trying to to be the responsible parent and explain the need for a condom without it being heard from them as GO FOR IT!

We've earned every gray hair we have!

Black Sheep

I raised his wedding. How does he feel knowing that his father will be 'forbidden' to attend? That he wont be 'allowed' to have his dad there? I put it to him plain that i fully expect to not be at the reception but i still want an invitation. I did say however that i DO expect to be at the KH to see my son get married. I will not raise a scene and i do not want to dampen his day. I hope it gives him food for thought.

I would have played it differently.... expected an invite .... intend to attend .... new missus in tow.

If anyone is going to make a scene, let it be them, let it be with your missus and daughter for an audience. You are not the one who will put the dampener on his day, the cult does that for him. You are just a dad wanting to be a normal dad, let them be the misfits, and if there is a price to pay ...... make them earn it and let them pay it.

Married to the Mob

Hey OZ

How old is your son?

No kids but I remember when I was 18 or so my parents said I couldn't do something and all it did was harden my resolve to do it!

Ask him if he has considered the emotional side and the commitment. Marriage isn't something to take lightly

Has he had rows with her? Do they communicate well?

What does he want to do with his life, does she have the same goals, hopes , aims, desires? Is she going to support him and vice versa?

Can he see himself with her in 10, 20, 30 years.

Ask him what he's going to do if married life isn't what he expects it to be? Its not as if you can just leave!

Has he considered her feelings?

I am sure you are the same, but me at 19 was very different to me at 24 and really different from who I am now at 33.

Mad Sweeney

wasblind

Hello there OZ,

I'm so glad that you continue to keep us posted about your children

when kids become hell bent on doin' somethin' all we can do is let

them know, that we love them and that if they ever need our

shoulder we'll be there. Trust, when the thrill for this girl get flat

and the pressure becomes a bit much, he will need his dad

I was talkin' to a sister from the old cong in the store the other

day, I asked about her children, she said the oldest girl is not in

the "truth" and the baby girl has gotten baptised, but now wishes

she had of waited, this sister stated that she did not force her younger

daughter to get baptised,

But ole Wuz know that even if this single mother didn't encourage it

some zealot in that cong did. And I got a feelin that this sister is gonna

wind up all alone without her children. that's sad

Aussie Oz

good thoughts, thankyou

you never know...maybe i will play it different in a year or two's time!

I will have opportunity to ask those questions

for now, i KNOW its the dick doing the thinking!

oz

freydo

Chicago school bans some lunches(government wants your children - parents too stupid )

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/education/ct-met-school-lunch-restrictions-041120110410,0,4567867.story

"To encourage healthful eating, Chicago school doesn't allow kids to bring lunches or certain snacks from home — and some parents, and many students, aren't fans of the policy............"

A Little Village Academy student cringes at an enchilada dish served at his school. Many students throw away their entrees uneaten and say they would rather bring food from home. The school, though, does not allow students to bring in their own lunches, unless they have a medical condition or a food allergy. ( Monica Eng, Chicago Tribune / February 17 , 2011 )

Aussie Oz

well thats random!

ummm thanks freydo

oz

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