by Aussie Oz 20 Replies latest watchtower bible
Just what is it?
(prompted in part by the post on the latest WT reinforcing shunning).
say a child has occasional, not regular, contact with a D/F parent. The child later gets married, is inviting the parent seen as ''necessary family business''?
if a wedding is not, then what is?
oz
I think that it would not be seen as "necessary".
I have always understood it to mean rhings like
If a person becomes serously ill, has an accident etc.
Ironically, Jws are " the only true Christians".
but, if a mother is in need, then, all of a sudden, its the "scriptural" responsability of the disfellowshipped child to care for her, rather than her " christian" " brothers and sisters".
Then his hemping her becomes "necessary family business.
Sorry, helping her.
I must learn how to edit posts.
jlp
Hi Jean-luc-picard... edit: within 30 mins click on thr little pencil icon at the top right corner of the time posted line...and edit away!
Wondering if the GB has handed down a 'rule' or guide to this sort of event or whether they leave it to elders to make it up?
oz
when they refer to that term it means that the next time you see em will be in a coffin...or on their deathbed.
Nothing in the new elders book either...
Is it something left to the 'conscience' of the ones being married?
oz
I would think that it consists of but not only:
1)Financial matters as to a family business, reading of a will, helping a disabled or mentally incapacitated parent (or child) to sell their house, move, do home repairs, etc., pay bills, balance statements, pay taxes, handle nursing home arrangements, visiting
2) Health reasons, parent or child not capable of caring for themselves
3) Coordinating/working with a non-df'd jw family member to do these things.
4) providing a home for parent/child incapacitated medically
A wedding is not this serious, attending one anyway, parents are not obligated legally to attend or pay or assist.
It depends on your conscience.
The BOE will let you know if your conscience is/was right or not.
I would think that it consists of but not only:
1)Financial matters as to a family business, reading of a will
Yes - this would be when the JW parents read their will in advance to their DFd kids, explaining that they have lost their inheritences and that everything is going to the Watchtower Society.
The BOE will let you know if your conscience is/was right or not.
This is the correct answer. It is technically a conscience matter but like all conscience matters in the Borg, if one's decision has the possibility of "stumbling" someone ELSE's conscience, then you should NOT do it.
So for the wedding thing, in my experience, you should be allowed to attend (especially if you are contributing financially in any way) but you will be KNOWN as DFd and none of the JWs there will talk with you. THEN, when someone bitches to the elders about it afterwards, your son will be dragged in to explain his thinking and receive counsel about not stumbling others.
No matter what happens it is going to suck (again, just like everything else in the Borg).
Good luck with all this. I'm sorry your boy isn't showing any signs of leaving the JWs any time soon. It has got to suck.
