So as long as a person claims to follow the teachings of Jesus without actually following his teachings you'd still consider that person to be a Christian? What's the logic behind this? If a person claims to be a vegetarian but eats meat everyday, would you still consider that person to be a vegetarian? If a man tells you he's gay but never dated a man and only dates woman, would you still consider him to be a gay man? Or how about if you're married and your husband tells you he loves you but always cheats on you and is physically and verbally abusive, would you consider him a loving husband? I really can't follow you're logic.
Apples and oranges. A person's religious beliefs and convictions are not the same as what they choose to eat, who they have sex with, or the person they are married to. I've known vegetarians who do eat some meat (fish, for instance), as well as eggs and dairy products. They are still by definition a vegetarian, even if it is not full-time.
There are HUNDREDS of examples of gay men who dated and married women to keep within the societal norms and to make their family happy. How in the hell are you gonna tell a gay man he's not gay just because he's married to a woman? So that's a very poor analogy as well.
And how many abused women make up excuses for their husbands and still claim that the man loves them, even though he is abusive? That he doesn't mean it...that she provoked it... Come on now. Many women would still believe their husbands loved them despite abusive behavior. In fact, many of them do believe that and stay with him because of it!
Jesus defined what a Christian is in the Bible, loving your neighbor, turing the other cheeck, praying for your enimies, etc. Murderers, child molesters, and rapist are not considered Christians by Jesus' standards, not ours.
Not so. Jesus also said those types of people could be forgiven...however, just because Jesus may have forgiven them does not mean they are not still subject to the laws that govern society on earth and that they don't have to pay for their crimes! Hence, the number of Christians in prison. Maybe they "found Juh-eeeesus" while they were rotting away and had nothing better to do. That doesn't mean they can just walk right out of the prison the day they "see the light". They still have to serve their time.