But I am still not sure. I guess I have a sort of fatalistic notion regarding JWs leaving. That pretty much people will leave if and when they are ready. Information, websites and community might aid the exit process but rarely prompt the exit decision. Have I been looking at it wrong?
I wouldn't say necessarily, people with doubts have them pushed over the edge when they see someone talking about their exact doubts then look and see no responses whatsoever to the doubt.
I'll tell you the most famous of my deconversion stories because he's told it and himself is a very well known apostate now. I had a person that wanted to just debate and debate and debate me. Every point he made I would point out how it was a logical fallacy, what the logical fallacy was and why it was not an answer. Finally he said something about how since I wasn't baptized I couldnt' call myself a JW to which I countered with that I was raised a JW, had to be separated in school, and I had even had to take the stand in court affirming I was a JW so a blood transfusion would not be performed in an upcoming operation. I didn't hear from him forever (apparently I had unwittingly blocked him) then I get a message from another account say that he had left.
In between our last discussion, since he couldn't respond to me he finally sat down and started reading about logical fallacies. He was reading the Watchtower in front of the congregation and there was a logical fallacy staring him right in the face. Once he saw one he couldn't stop seeing them in everything he was reading by them and it made him realize what he had wasn't the truth it was just another religion making excuses for it's bad behavior.
I think my series is a bit different than others on youtube because most are saying "JWs are wrong and here's why" which mine are more "Look I don't think this teachings is right, here's the reasons that have given me a doubt, do you have the answer to make this teaching make sense".