I wondered about this as the song by Brian Adams played....what do you do/say/act if you really love someone.
Edited to add: - I ask because some are so idealistic about it and think it's all fairytale stuff. Others are cynical.
If you love a woman/man....
by LouBelle 36 Replies latest jw friends
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faundy
In my experience I treat them like shit because I have something in me that makes it impossible for me to be happy. I have to fuck up everything I touch to reaffirm my own self deprecation.
But I take it you meant something nice, so my something nice would be to meet them from work and take them out, totally on a whim. I don't think it's about money, but about making a sincere effort, no matter how skint you are.
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DesirousOfChange
In my experience I treat them like shit because I have something in me that makes it impossible for me to be happy. I have to fuck up everything I touch to reaffirm my own self deprecation.
There are good therapists these days.......but then again, it's your life to fuck up all you want.
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leavingwt
Talk is cheap.
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No Room For George
In my experiences if you really love a woman, you'll never approach her and express your feelings. Rather you'll stay quiet and humble as someone with more to offer her than yourself wins her heart. Afterwards you'll say to yourself, he was far better for than I could have ever been. Then you go home brooding and listen to Compton's Most Wanted.
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mrsjones5
Damn, you really need to do something about that.
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elderelite
Oh yes..... I would do anything for a gal i love... I dont even fight it :-) that why im choosy about who i let myself love. But its the greatest feeling, deeper and more intense with time... I mourn those who fight it or deny themselves
Miz... Pardon me while i quote a previous comment
" There are good therapists these days.......but then again, it's your life to fuck up all you want."
Seems to apply here as well...
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Morbidzbaby
Myself, I listen to him...whether he's griping or being funny...whether he's happy or sad... I just listen. I don't offer any advice, just an understanding ear. He knows he can tell me anything and I won't judge him. I accept everything about him, even if I may not like certain things. I think that's the key...to actually love and accept him WITH his flaws, not in spite of them.
As for actual actions, I'm not a big romantic...never have been. My way of showing that I love him is giving him his morning wake-up call every work day and then talking to him as he drives in to start his day. It's a ritual we started a couple of months ago when he missed his alarm lol. I had called him a couple of times to say good morning, and the day he missed his alarm, he said my call wakes him up better. He asked me to keep doing it, so I do. He's not the only one who gets something out of it, either. I enjoy it and it sets the tone for my day.
I guess other ways would be just nurturing him the way he needs to be nurtured. I mean, he's a big tough guy, but he still likes to be taken care of (though he doesn't admit it to anyone but me). I try my best to fulfill his needs, even if it's just as simple as encouraging him to go out with his friends.
First and foremost, we are best friends. We started out as friends, and it just went from there...but we've always kept that "friend" element. It's always been casual, even though we developed feelings for each other. We've always had that casual "tell each other everything" and "just be ourselves" relationship. In truth, he's the first person who I've been able to be my true self with and not feel bad about who I am. He makes it okay to be me, because like me, he accepts and loves me WITH my flaws. I was my real self with him because I really didn't think it would go anywhere and so I felt like I had nothing to lose. And that's who he fell in love with. Part of me still can't believe it lol.
In general, when I really love someone, I do a lot of cooking and taking care of HIM... Like massages and making sure he has clean clothes, etc.
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keyser soze
If you love a woman, you'll peep through her window without her knowing, leave creepy notes in her mailbox, and have pictures of her all over your apartment, while fantasizing about your life together.
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mrsjones5
First and foremost, we are best friends. We started out as friends, and it just went from there...but we've always kept that "friend" element. It's always been casual, even though we developed feelings for each other. We've always had that casual "tell each other everything" and "just be ourselves" relationship. In truth, he's the first person who I've been able to be my true self with and not feel bad about who I am. He makes it okay to be me, because like me, he accepts and loves me WITH my flaws. I was my real self with him because I really didn't think it would go anywhere and so I felt like I had nothing to lose. And that's who he fell in love with. Part of me still can't believe it lol.
In general, when I really love someone, I do a lot of cooking and taking care of HIM... Like massages and making sure he has clean clothes, etc.
My husband and I are best friends too and tell each other everything. He's the only man I've ever been able to be completely myself with. Through good and bad times I'm glad the we have each other.