Me personally, I never once felt guilty about "fooling around" with my JW soon-to-be wife.
Anyways, before I start going off on a tangeant, let me say that my wife and I couldn't be happier together and we do not regret ANY of the stuff we did. Its been a year now, and NOBODY has found out at all.
Unlike you, I felt guilty as hell! Approached an elder in my congo who basically didn't want to hear it or deal with it and kinda just sent me on my way....
Wife & I today? Happy together and it's been over a year now too, just like you, well actually........... something like 25 years over a year.