There are a few people like Fipper, and his lovely wife, that keep me from saying 'No'
I havent met them , but they have both listened to me when I needed it.
Their geniune concern shines through cyber space and the phone, like a Nothern Star.
Other than that, it's not 'real' until you meet someone, and spend some time with them.
That was been my experiance anyways.