So where are you now?

by fade_away 17 Replies latest jw experiences

  • fade_away
    fade_away

    Are any of you on here not living the dreams you had as a kid because of the "no higher education" rule?

    I was a born in JW and remained one until the age of 25. By my late teens I knew what I wanted to do with my life. I'm about to write a lengthy history explaining why I'm not currently in the carreer I wanted, so you can skip this boring story and just comment if you want to.

    I was raised to be a loyal JW and since birth already had many goals chosen for me. When I was around 8, I had the dreams all the kids had. I wanted to be a fireman, or a police man, or a doctor. Until my parents told me "fire men risk their lives and life is sacred" and "police carry guns and God hates violence" and "doctors won't be needed in the new world". They told me to choose something simple like carpentry because "we're constantly building new Kingdom Halls and in the New World there would be lots of construction."

    I personally believe that we should all choose our carreers based on what we are inclined to do as a kid. Some kids like fixing stuff, others like building things, others like sports...but as for me, I still didn't know what my inclination was. It's hard to develop a taste for something when you're locked up inside unable to explore the "evil world of Satan" outside. I couldn't have worldly friends and I couldn't have friends at the Hall seeing as how there weren't any. The few kids in the Hall had their cliques already and turned their backs on me when I approached them. So without friends, I adapted and became a loner. I got to the point where I welcomed solitude and peace. I still do and I'm the happiest when it's just my wife and I alone.

    So being alone in my room all day, I started drawing and and just getting creative. I would get bored and play videogames and watch movies. Then WT articles came out saying the dangers of videogames and movies and music which was the cause of many an elbow nudge to the ribs from my parents during the meetings and asking "Are you taking notes?". I'm not allowed to play outside with worldly kids and now they don't want me to stay in my room either? I ignored it all and played even more videogames. But then I started getting very interested in the behind the scenes of video games and movies. Even more interested than the games themselves. I loved the art dept. in the studios! People getting paid to brainstorm ideas for characters and enviornments. Also ideas for stories. As a kid, I loved drawing and story telling. I wasn't much of a writer, but I attempted to create my own comic books. I drew them and wrote them myself. Finally I found my calling. This, I figured was my inclination.

    In my late teens, I told my dad I wanted to study computer graphic design and he was all "Perfect! You can be an architect drawing blue prints on the computer! Or you can be a web designer!" I said "uh, no I was thinking character animation for games or CG for movies". He just said "Videogames, huh?" Then he chuckled a bit. He looked dissapointed that I'm still thinking of games and haven't matured yet to create a more serious goal. I mean seriously, you would think I just told him I wanted to be a rodeo clown or something! He didn't say no, but he kept lecturing me on how the entertainment industry is the Devil's main tool to distract people from Jehovah. A guilt trip put upon me to make me choose something else. He wanted me to be a technician of AC units, so I gave in.

    I tried it for a couple of years and then I dropped the course after failing one very expensive semester I wasn't willing to re-pay to re-take it. Now I'm in my mid twenties. By now I could've been working on my carreer with a college degree, instead I'm working at a regular low paying job with a college debt. Oh well, it could be worse I guess. Nevertheless, I'm still living a very happy life. I still draw from time to time and maybe one day I can make it my job.

  • MrFreeze
    MrFreeze

    I didnt get a college education. I probably could have but when your whole life it is stuck into your head how pointless it is, its hard to build up a desire to. I still dont know what I want to do with my life.

  • nugget
    nugget

    I am doing my degree in psychology with the aim to go into counselling. My life goals have changed now due to my experience with the organisation and a wish to do something that makes a positive difference in people's lives.

    I have so many things I want to accomplish and am in a hurry to get on with things. It is never too late to try again.

  • Quendi
    Quendi

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  • free @ last
    free @ last

    I went back to college 8 years ago when my doubts about the troof were beginning to crystallize. Got a BA, have a pretty awesome job, was promoted 6 months ago to a position that definitely requires some post-grad knowledge. Was seriously considering going for my MBA this year (especially since my company offers full reimbursement at some top-notch Universities in my area) but decided to put it off for another year in order to concentrate on deprogramming myself. I was subjected to 33 years of WTBTS mis-education. I'm half-way through CoC and have been a member here for a few weeks now. I've been out of the KH for 2 years but I'am still surrounded by JWs so I it's a constant struggle. That's the challenge of being a fader who wants to stay close to JDub family.

    FadeAway - Education is a life long process don't get too hung up on having a later than usual start - these days it's the norm to see students of all ages in undergrad and post-grad programs.

    f@l

  • jamiebowers
    jamiebowers

    You can put your college debt on hold if you go back to school. And at 25, your parents' income won't be considered, and you may be eligible for financial aid. I don't know much about computer graphic design, but it seems probable that you can gain skill in animation and other areas. That way you can support yourself with practical applications while attempting to break into the entertainment industry.

  • Found Sheep
    Found Sheep

    It wasn't a long or boring story. Glad you are happy and like everyone said you are young and still have time to be where you want to be. I'm in a good place at this time. Great Man and Job and home and feeling healthy... Life is good yet always changing...

  • talesin
    talesin

    By now I could've been working on my carreer with a college degree, instead I'm working at a regular low paying job with a college debt.

    This made me angry for you. Your father should pay this off!

    You know what you love. Small steps,,, small steps.

    eg. did you know that you can take PhotoShop lessons online, from Adobe, for free?

    I started with actg, moved on to computers, and took classes towards my CMA part-time (paid for by the company) in order to 'get' someplace in management, and have financial security. I hated it, but was good at it.

    After I got sick (late 30s), and couldn't work anymore, had lots of time on my hands to discover what I really loved -- ART.

    Though it's hard, I am determined to 'follow my bliss'. Middle aged, sick, but DETERMINED!!!!!

    I tell you this, not so you'll feel sorry for me, but so you'll know,,, it's never too late,,, and always important to keep working on your art, whether it's pencil drawing on a Sunday afternoon, or sculpting with some self-drying clay.

    If you are supporting children/family, it's got to be rough ... but don't give up,,, never give up. The heart of an artist cannot be suppressed.

    xo

    tal

  • charlie brown jr.
    charlie brown jr.

    No....

    I'm about what I expected....

    Mid Life No job ....

    No Horizons

    No problem

    at Least I have my Health............

  • Heaven
    Heaven

    Are any of you on here not living the dreams you had as a kid because of the "no higher education" rule?

    Yes and No. I am not exactly living my dreams but not because I didn't go to higher education. I was not supported to live my dream by my parents. Their criteria was 'to get a good job at a good company.' I did what I was told. Of course, my parents didn't want us to go to College but me and my bro. knew they were living in fantasyland and went anyways. We paid our own way. I chose a career in IT as that is where the demand was at the time I was graduating from high school.

    As for living my dream, that did not fit with my parent's ideals. They were not the type to think outside the box. They were from the depression era and it greatly affected them. Add in the cult mentality and you have a situation where they couldn't wait for us to get jobs. Neither one had higher education so running your own business or doing something other that working for a good company was not acceptable to them.

    I personally believe that we should all choose our carreers based on what we are inclined to do as a kid.

    I agree with you fade-away. In Watchtower World, everything that has nothing to do with the cult is quashed. I should be doing something with horses or something artistic. My music teacher in public school wanted me to get voice lessons. That never happened. My high school art teacher wanted to send me to art camp in the summer. My parents said no because all artists are drug users. These things were unacceptable to my parents. Creativity is not allowed -- I could hardly wait to grow up and move out to get away from that crap.

    Now, I stand in middle-age, with retirement looming closer and closer and I find myself beginning to contemplate what I want to do once I am no longer working in the rat race. Maybe it's time to follow my dreams.

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