According to my parents your all hitchhikers! (page 2)

Snowboarder

Thanks to all that posted, i have much more going on and i feel lost, and i really don't know what to do. I posted a new post http://sochiolympicgames.blogspot.com/ and in the post i talked about all the problems i face and i still need to write more because i have more to write and i ahve more problems then that. Well i have to go any comments are good and appreciated.

AGuest

I can't believe it, that they don't want to believe me,

Allow yourself to believe it, dear Sandro (peace to you!), as it will help "explain" a lot of other things you won't want to believe about them. For starters, that they are only blind... which does not have to be permanent.

i don't know what to say or reply

"Thank you, Mom; I absolutely love you and Dad, but we're going to have to agree to disagree for now. In the meantime, I promise not to send you to any websites or even speak of what I now know/believe, if you promise to do the same and not send me any WT literature or ask me to attend any meetings/field service, or speak to me about what you believe", etc.... might be a good start.

i wish my parents would see the light

Again, they're blind, right now. And apparently not "ready" to open their eyes (or have them opened). Picture, if you will, a person with their eyes closed tight and their hands over their eyes. You can pry their hands off, yes, but their eyes are still closed. They have to choose to open them, dear one.

All YOU can do... is love them... and SHOW them, by YOUR conduct, how wrong THEY are. Anything else and you're not going to look much different from "the world." Not only will they keep their eyes shut to that and their hands over their eyes... but they're most likely to put a hood on, then pull down the shades... and turn off all the lights. Folks who love the darkness... LOVE darkness.

I hope this helps and, again, peace to you!

A slave of Christ,

SA

Adiva

AGuest put it beautifully. I also follow your blog and am happy to see that you are finding your own way. Stay strong and surround yourself with positive minded people who share your passions. See you on-line.

Adiva

jamiebowers

I'm glad to see you got away from the pressure filled environment and are living with non-jw famly. Pursue your dreams and be happy.

Robdar

Wow. It's a shock, isn't it, to find out your parents do not really want to see that they are in bondage? Many of us have been there and so we feel for you very much.

The way I handled my situation was to be kind and sympathetic towards my parents. I never forced my opinions on them but I did ask alot of questions and I never made fun of their beliefs. I figured when they were ready they would listen. It took about 20 or so years, and a little help from Farkel and other posters on this db, but my entire family is out of the org now. Stay patient and kind. You never know what might happen.

ziddina

"Many on this website have suggested that JWs on their way out read the book Combatting Cult Mind Control by Steve Hassan to help deal with family still on the inside. You should give that a look. ..."

What Vampire - and others - have suggested... Research cult thinking and you'll be better prepared to deal with the situation - and perhaps better prepared to surreptitiously sow doubts, instead of using the "head-on" tactics you've used so far...

Best results to you...

jean-luc picard

Hi Snowboarder. I'm glad to see things are coming together for you.

You know, it wont all be easy going, but keep striving toward your goal. You wont regret it.

And again if you really love us you would never do such a thing.....

emotional blackmail. But dont hold it against your mum. She's REALLY scared for you.

Remember, your parents came from a war torn country. Sure their life is better, and they may well feel that they have a lot to be grateful for. But this is YOUR life. Live it to the full.

In the words of a good friend : Live long, and prosper

Mad Sweeney

Read Combating Cult Mind Control by Steve Hassan and you will understand better the mind control they are victims of. You will also understand the way to combat it. You might also follow up by reading Releasing the Bonds, also by Hassan.

skeeter1

I know it must hurt to see your mother acting as such. Please consider it her cult personality hat. Live your life as best as you can, and ignore what she says. Show her love and that you are having a good life. You may have to keep what you do in your private life, private. But, gently set your boundaries where your religion is concerned, "Let's not discuss religion, mom" or "Let's not discuss the Watch Tower, mom." You don't have to tell her everything you do anymore. If she blows a gasket, you will not remotely blame yourself. As she sees you grow into a happier and happier person, she will likely warm up. If you aren't threatening her with your newly found religion, she will have no reason to "hate" you (with her cult trained personality).

I have to consider my JW relatives to be half baked. I couldn't pick a fight with someone who was half baked.

Skeeter

Billy the Ex-Bethelite

Hang in there!

According to my parents your all hitchhikers!

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