With respect to my drinking buddies, u r missing the point. Stillin seems to think his wife wants the "theocratic" fairy tale and thats why shes unhappy after assemblies and such. Im saying my wife HAS the theocratic fairy tale,including husband who had parts on those very programs, and still was a bitch ALL the time!
I repeat, to stillin more than any other, "good marriages are not based on the cult. Your wife still wouldnt b happy even with that life".....
Dont accept less from her.... Build your relationship as best u can, get counsling if she will go. The cult will never lead to happiness.
Sometimes reading your posts, and posts like StillIn's, make me happy I'm still single man and don't have to put up with that foolishness. I've got enough of my own BS, to put up with someone elses. By the way, I think Zid hit the nail and I didn't read her post or anybody elses, until after I posted which I have a habit of doing. That being, not readin the other posts until after I get my thoughts out as I'm prone to lose my thoughts fairly quick. I agree with you on good marriages not being based on the cult, and that his wife wouldn't necessarily be happy even with the ideal JW fantasy lifestyle. Heck, I think a good portion of people on this message board would have dysfunctional relationships regardless of the JW aspect.
I think though, the JW lifestyle stresses marriages and family. It's hard enough making a living, and making relationships work, dealing with children, and other responsiblities such as the chores and maintenance that comes with owning property and a car. Then you throw into the mix all of the meetings, assemblies, and field service. Then the neverending nagging generated out of Bethel that one can never do enough for Jehovah. It's stressful. Heck I'm single and stressed than a mutha f#$#!! Couldn't imagine being married with kids and having to juggle the JW crap along with it.
suspect that your wife is unhappy because she sees the disparity between the Watchtower Society's fairy tales and reality, but she sees it at a PRE-conscious or subconscious level.
And can't admit to herself that it's all a lie. She's still striving - vainly - for that 'carrot-on-a-stick' that the Watchtower Society dangles in front of its members' noses. She hasn't caught that carrot yet, but she can't understand why. Or she refuses to allow herself to see the REAL truth - reality - that it's all a gigantic shell game - a con game that she's been suckered into...
This makes a lot of sense to me, this I believe is how it begins. It wasn't but a couple years ago that I was frustrated and for the life of me couldn't articulate why I felt the way I did. At one point I even though maybe Jehovah's spirit wasn't upon me or something. It took this board and a couple other sites to get my brain started. Frustration is where it begins I believe, and StillIn's wife may be on her way.