I want to fade but ...

Dudu

I need an advice.... Has been 2 months since I went to a meeting and or field service, I received a call from an elder saying that he wants my monthly report , i dont know what to do coz he is been calling me for 4 days now i dont want to answer the phone, but at the same time i feel like just sending the report. The question is, should i fade slowly or just stop ? my family isnt JW only my mom is inactive.

J. Hofer

even a slow fade starts with not putting in your time slip. for 6 consecutive months. 4 more months to go and you are inactive. fading does not work without this step.

mankkeli

Just report an activity less than 10 hours and text it to him. He will let you rest. He is only doing his job.

J. Hofer

if your family isn't in, i'd just go away. no reason to spend one more minute being controlled (and you are being controlled right now) by the elders and the rest of the "flock".

NomadSoul

Ignore him, change your number.

Never mind, just ignore all of them. Even if they confront you in person. Just say you're busy, bye.

That's what I did.

sizemik

Don't feel intimidated . . . just tell him you have nothing to report . . . you are dealing with some personal issues. If he inquires further just restate that they're personal. At least it starts off a fade if you choose to go that way. Either way . . . it buys you some time to think it through more.

ED; If just stopping is a preferable option for you . . . then do it.

Coffee House Girl

There's nothing wrong in ignoring....you do not have to talk to anyone that you do not want to- especially if there are no strings attached (JW family)

CHG

unshackled

If you don't have family in, sounds like your road is paved for a fade. What other consequences could there be? Any other important people in your life that would be jeopardized? If not, just ignore him. Or simply say you have nothing to report. Either way, they have no power over you unless you let them.

NomadSoul

Now that I take a look back, I'm amazed at what I did. I never stop and actually think about it.

I was still living with my parents, and I had about 3 years left to graduate High School, but that's what I did. I just ignore them.

They would come visit the rest of the family and they would try to talk to me. And I would just say no. My parents would beg me to just talk to them. This kept going for almost a year. The farthest they got was me saying Hi and just kept walking back to my room.

isojourn

Try not to speak with them, but if all fails and you feel you must.

sizemik's advice seems sound enough.

Don't feel intimidated . . . just tell him you have nothing to report . . . you are dealing with some personal issues. If he inquires further just restate that they're personal. At least it starts off a fade if you choose to go that way. Either way . . . it buys you some time to think it through more.

Keep yourself busy, do the research and live your life and it will get easier. Remember, it's like leaving the mob at first. You also have the advantage of not having family in the borg.

With time and a glass of whiskey it will get better.

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