During my illness, I became close to Madeleine L'Engle b/c she did a lay ministry. Because her book, A Wrinkle in Time, was so well-known and nice, the State Department sent her abroad. Many churches, not Episcopal, paid her honorariums to give sermons. I told her how I telephoned the major Catholic cathedral in NY to ask about attending a healing service. The priest told me not to come. Yet Woodstock Jesuit Seminary was in the neighborhood and gave frequent sermons and celebrate communion in the Anglican Cathedral. They, in turn, received communion from the Episcopal priests. I saw Dan Berrigan do this many times.
Madeleine told me she always receives communion in Catholic churches. She said I should not have asked for permission. Her reasoning was that most priests would want to give it but when cornered with such a direct question against official policy would have to say no to protect themselves. I received communion in large Catholic and Orthodox churches where I knew no one.
When I moved near by sister, I did not want to be alone at Christmas. She is now Catholic. I felt very awkward but I wanted to receive communion. Despite all my beliefs about communion being between my self and God, it took so much effort to go up. My teen age nephew saw me out of the corner of his eye. Once he realized what I was doing, I swear his eyes popped out. I thought he would scream out load to stop communion. He was silent. Afterwards, it was so obvious he wanted to discuss it and was told not do if he wanted to live.
The biggest rule I've heard in every Episcopal church is never to deny communion, no matter what. If Adi Amin shows up with Hitler and Mao, they are graciously given communion. God will deal with it. I wonder if there is something in the nature of the sacrements that there is such a different in policy. I would be curious what Catholics here think about it. Maybe I was wrong. My JW time leads me to act like a small kid about rules and their overall importance. Part of my mind is so sophisticated and cosmpolitan and the other part is rules, rules, deference, deference.