by Free!! 43 Replies latest jw friends
Thanks for the advice, i think i need motivation to do anything... i have any motivation...
For company i do have pets, i have 2 dogs that i love w all my heart, but i need human interaction.... like i said i feel like life is passing me by... i gained almost 40 pounds in one year, that's how depressed i am.. :(
some for you too ekruks.....
Check with your doctor to see if you have clinical depression. If you do, get treated for it.
Free!! . . . you mention feeling tired. How are your sleep patterns? Insomnia is a classic indicator for a depressive disorder.
You sound very familiar to how I've felt (and still do occasionally). What helps is remaining convinced that things will get better . . . because it's true, they will. Don't be anxious about things not happening fast enough . . . and becoming too focussed on what tomorrow might bring. Find some little pleasure that helps you relax . . . and then just enjoy it for what it is. Time is a necessary ingredient in the recipe . . . we can't hurry the process unfortunately.
I'm not clinically depressed, so here is what works for me as I take life one day at a time, getting through all these disappointments that have hit me this past 1 1/2 years.
First, I tell myself that I don't want to feel like this, then summon up the strength within and tell myself that a good life is to be had, and I'm going to have a piece of it.
Then, I make a plan. I take the most bothersome thing and break it down into parts to be dealt with one at a time. This is with stuff like student loans and things that must be accomplished. One defaulted cuz I'm a dumb ass.
With grieving, I let it happen and talk about it a lot with whoever I feel cares enough to listen. It helps a lot.
With family putting on pressure to attend meetings, I drop the subject and let it die.
Very important to add to your everyday life, no matter what mental condition you find yourself in: EXERCIZE! Become an adrenalin junkie doing what you love to do most (as long as you're physically able).
Don't feel like doing it (mood-wise)? DO IT ANYWAY!
Eat well, too.
Get help for depression, if it just seems that nothing works and hasn't worked for a while.
I hope that you find what works to help you to feel better.
thanks ekruks... i will be checking google for some info.... :)
Also Talesin, thanks for the ideas, i think the one about making a list of people that would miss me may help... i really do not think many people would... :(
Learn to meditate --- 3-stage breathing ,,, lungs, diaphragm, and stomach ...
it can help you calm and focus ...
also, have you done any drawing/painting/sculpting/writing? Many of us have unexplored / undiscovered artistic talents.
:D
Explore what you love ---- go to the library!!! Spend hours in the stacks ... read, enjoy ...
you'll be okay
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Thanks everyone, i am seriously going to look for a new doctor... i mean this is too much.. i feel so tired, my house is a mess... if it was for me i would just sleep and let myself die... i need help now! and i can't find it...
I don't want to bother my friends, i know everyone has their own problems and is not fair for me to add to it... is just feeling that everyone has a life and i am loser.... just standing in a little corner by myself... i am terrified of dying alone in this apartment and that no one will notice my absence... i know it sounds dramatic... but when you feel like i do now is the truth.
we ALL need human interaction...I would start there. Is there anything you are interested in that would get you out and about and interacting with people?
I know just being around people can be depressing in itself if you are not involved. It can make you feel even more isolated.
I like the suggestion of little steps...go for a walk...even a 5 min one will clear the air a bit...lift your spirits. If you aim for that for a few days you might find a bit of inspiration to do something else too.
I don't want to bother my friends
You might find that your friends WANT to be bothered...I tend to have this problem. When I am most low...I isolate myself...and tell myself exactly that...I don't want to bother people...
When I finally do talk to my friends...they usually get angry with me for not talking to them sooner...I still have a bad habbit of thinking like this and have to remind myself that I care about my friends and would happily listen to their problems for as much as they need to talk. And they would do the same for me.
excuse me... for the record... I would miss you deeply. you share my blood and I love you.
