BORN-INS: If you could go back and Change this.

hirotaka

A question primarily derected to Born-ins....doesn't matter if you're still in or out.

If you could go back in time, let's say to the time you were a teenager, before being baptised.

Do you regret not telling your JW parents that you just couldn't do the JW thing anymore and that you wanted out? I think about this often that it may have worked out much better not to get baptized, married to a JW, and have to tow that line for decades, feaful to loose family and friends.

In the end that's what happened to me anyway, five years ago and now I have the life I should have had my whole life.

What are your thoughts and feelings on this?

cheers

H

mrsjones5

You mean born-ins who took the plunge. There are two types here.

Dudu

well, im 29 and im not married yet... at the time of being a teenager i was so much in to be JW.... if i could change something i wouldnt get baptized at the young age of 10... and would have had few boyfriends :P

hirotaka

Before being baptised, Mrs., J.

Dudu, yes I would have had a lot more girlfriends too!

mrsjones5

What I'm trying to point out is there are born-ins here who were able to avoid being baptized, a fact that my parents (especially my mother) are not happy about.

hirotaka

Yes, Mrs. J5.......there are some bornins who avoided the baptism thing altogether.

I'm just asking...IF you could go back and tell your parents that you're just not going to go along with the religion what do you think would be diferrent in your life, for better or for worse?

Cheers

H

mrsjones5

I guess that would depend on the parents reaction. My mother has told me that if I had gotten baptized and fell away there's no way her would abandon me but based on her performance over the last few years (she's a pioneer now) I truly doubt it. I didn't take the dip but I did marry a worldly man and in my parents' eyes that's close to being a df'd person.

Dudu

Im not sure if that would have had a big difference ... im the youngest and the only one who was a child when mom started going to meetings , mom and i were the only jw in the familly and mom has been inactive for more than 12 years ......

talesin

In my forties (*word?) ,,, I thought about this ... and confronted my mother about it ... at 14, how could I be expected to make such a life-changing decision...??? She had NO compasion for me....

it's a sad thing,,,

ta;

mamamo

I deeply regret getting batized at 16. But it took me another 9 years to quit. I knew I shouldn't have gotten baptized, I really thought there was no way they would pass me, but they did. Yesterday, my mother once again started in with the "it would be so much easier if you would just get reinstated." But it seriously ain't happening. I have been out for 21 years this December 9th.

I'm not sure how things would have went if I hadn't gotten baptized. Would I have slowly slipped away? And then what would my mom have done or said? I think she would have bugged me all the time until I either totally shut her out or caved and stayed in. Thank goodness I didn't get married and have kids before I left.

BORN-INS: If you could go back and Change this.

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