His days left on this earth are few.

by LouBelle 11 Replies latest jw friends

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  LouBelle

  I posted a while back about my uncle. He was diagnosed with prostate cancer over a year ago. It metasised - infected the bladder, ureathra, colon and finally got into the nervous system. He has fought his battle and his time is drawing to a close.

  Watching someone die every day is horrific, there is absolutely nothing you can do. All you can do is let the person know you love them and that you are there. You don't even know if they understand you, know you are there.

  I don't know if he understands what is going on any more. What he is thinking. All he does is mouth a couple of phrases or moans out louding, incoherently in pain.

  I want his time to come soon, as soon as possible, so that he will no longer be in pain.

  His mother, my gran has been a trogen! A pillar of strength. She said the other day "Lou, I shouldn't be burying my son" She had tears in her red, swollen eyes. That broke my heart, to see my lil ol' granny in pain like that. Oh a mothers' love when witnessed like that is a very powerful vision.

  I know soon I will be standing up and speaking about my uncle at his funeral. It will be an honour to remember him and share those memories with friends. (Sidebar - another reason I'm happy to be free of that faith - I get to speak about my loved one and not hear some dispassionate speach)

  This journey has truly ingrained in my core, my heart, my being, to love my family and friends, to speak kindness into their lives, to lift and encourange them however I can.

  I really hope that you let people around you know that you love and care for them.
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  sizemik

  It's by far the hardest part of life . . . watching a terminal illness slowly have it's way.

  Thanks for the timely reminder LouBelle . . .

  Strength to you for coming days
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  still thinking

  Being with the dying has a powerful impact on our lives...I was with my uncle when he died and then my mother when she died..Both died of cancer, my uncle had lung cancer and my mother stomach...it was a relief but at the same time such a huge loss.

  I can't fully explain, but I had a connection, especially with my mother, hard to describe but just a knowing. Almost like I could read her mind..I know that sounds strange and I don't know if you can relate to that. But I believe that they know you are there. They just communicate differently when they are dying. Sort of like a mother and a new born baby...you just tune in.

  my thoughts are with you LouBelle.
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  ssn587

  I know what you mean, I had to watch for 1 1/2 days while my wife was dying, its horrible to watch and i didn't give up hope until the end, and then it became even more horrible that it had previously been. I am still grieving and probably will until my end.
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  journey-on

  tears in my eyes, LouBelle. You're feelings are beautifully expressed in your post. I'm sure your words at his funeral will be beautifully expressed as well. My heartfelt condolences to you and your granny.
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  MrFreeze

  Strength be with you and your family.
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  LouBelle

  Last night the hospice called to say he had taken a turn for the worse. The whole family got together around him, we all told him we loved him and that he must let go, that it was time to be at peace. My aunt and I stayed the whole night.

  Another day closer to his rest.
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  still thinking

  sending you a cyber hug LouBelle...

  I remember this stage...feels like time is standing still and you're a bit numb.
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  cantleave

  I wish you all the strength you can muster. Watching someone die of cancer is so terribly hard.
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  hotspur

  This is exactly how my father died... metastising prostrate cancer. So little can be done. I feel for you as I relive what I went through.