I must admit that my visits to Bethel were positive ones. Yes, I did see some bethelites who were unfriendly, one was even angry- but I figured they were not faithful, or it is not for everyone. I could not adjust to the lack of privacy and rigid schedule of Bethel-I am glad the brother conducting the meeting for Bethel Service at the 1978 international Convention was so forthright. He honestly presented the benifits and the challanges of life at Bethel. He admitted some are not happy there. He said only a small pecentage of publishers could adjust to life there and stay and be happy. After the meeting I handed back my application, I didn't fill it out. I must have looked very discouraged for the brother approached me after the meeting and asked me why I was down. I told him I was dissapointed: Bethel did not sound like what I thought it was like. But he encouraged me and explained- its not for everyone. Some can be joyfull and make it their life's work. And he had recounted blessings of life at Bethel in his talk, He encouraged me to pioneer. I thanked him for his honesty and knew life at Bethel was not for me.
But I very much enjoyed my many visits there over the years and wish I could visit again. ( I have no way to get there and no-one to go with.)
I appreciate hearing the experiences of those on jwn who lived at Bethel. I also realize that people are different and some can do better under certain types of circumstances than others. (I would not have been happy living there.)
A brother from my original congregation has been serving at Bethel for 35 years and his wife has been there for 21 years! He has never seemed unhappy there and I am happy for him and his wife-they were able to make the adjustments to Bethel life and find happiness there. This was his goal- and he has succeeded in it.
There are two sides to every story. Many who post on jwn had discouraging, bad experiences at Bethel and have a totally negative view of it because of what they experienced and I don't doubt they experienced those things. But there are those at Bethel who love it, and I'm sure there are ex-Bethelites who have many good things to say about their experiences there. They will not post here on jwn as witnesses are discouraged from doing so. (If I was still an active witness I would not have joined jwn either.) I knew some former Bethelites who left Bethel to have children. They enjoyed their time at Bethel.
Realistically, in a place that has so many thousands of workers of varying ages, personalities & backgrounds there are bound to be personality conflicts at times. This is to be expected. Everyone is human. ( I am not condoning any serious wrongdoing that took place there.)
My view of Bethel is no longer the one I long ago held. But I aim to be fair and objective and listen to everyone's Bethel experiences; Pro and anti.