Hello From a Newbie

by AlphaQup2nite 21 Replies latest jw friends

  • AlphaQup2nite
    AlphaQup2nite

    Hello,

    I found this site randomly the other day on an unrelated search, and its nice to find a place where people can discuss a relgion that in house cannot be discussed without either being quoted mantras or a very skewed view of the world.

    Ok about me.

    Im a 24 year old Taiwanese-American, and I have been raised as a JW from the age of about three to the age of 17, when i unoffically left. I started to have doubts around age 12, but did what i was supposed to to keep mommy and daddy happy. My parents are JWs, as well as my older 1/2 sister, and my younger sister. Ever since then, ive been trying to function in the outside world, but it has been tough. Ive finally been able to overcome many of the instilled fears and morality codes that ive been raised with, but building one's own moral code from practially nothing is difficult to say the least. My experience with JWs have rendered me pretty agnositic, and i am still having trouble building lasting relationships with everyone. I currently reside in Mainland China, with one of the major reasons i decided to move here was that there would be no JW harassment. Jws have left me cynical and maladjusted to the real world.

    Other then that, im pretty much an ass to people who diserve it, spontanious, and very passion driven. I also have problems with authority, which i think stems from the BELIEVE OR DIE stand that most of the people in JWs i have known took, esp when i had serious questions they couldnt answer. My belief struture that i am working with is simply improving one's self. Be all that you can be and all that stuff.

    So far what ive read on this sight has been pretty intersting. I was hoping to find a way to talk to my parents and "save" them, but i beleive now that Dogma said it best where (paraphrased) Ideas are great, Beleifs are terrible. Ideas can be discussed, and changed, but Beleifs, well people kill each other over them.

  • Bangalore
    Bangalore

    Welcome to JWN.

    Bangalore

  • Found Sheep
    Found Sheep

    welcome!

  • NoRegrets
    NoRegrets

    Welcome and enjoy sharing here!

  • poppers
    poppers

    Welcome, Alpha. Moved to mainland China to escape the JWs - now that's quite a statement.

  • freshstart
    freshstart

    Welcome! The world can be a beautiful place, so enjoy the journey and embrace your freedom

  • designs
    designs

    Welcome

  • Gayle
    Gayle

    Alpha,, welcome. Wow,,so nice through Internet the JWN (ex-JWs) can have contacts world over,, JWs have so many limitations placed on them, and one is to be anti-Internet. They are required to have such a little world, how suffocating. Here on JWN is quite a diversified group. Everyone is on their path and so many variables and that is good.

    When you are raised a JW kid, there are so many things to re-evaluate, so many adjustments. Youth are to grow and learn. But when one has been a JW there's an extra step to process. That is "unlearning" or "de-programming. Takes time. Occasionally, it is nice to talk with ones that too have 'been there, done that.' But, one learns immensely about themselves in the process.

    Coming out of JWs, 'zealous' critical thinking develops. A good thing. Then, in time, a relaxing develops too. One learns an acceptance mode. One learns to find some things, different to each, that one enjoys, relaxes, finds inner peace with.

  • MrFreeze
    MrFreeze

    Alpha, your story sounds like mine. Welcome aboard!

  • Morbidzbaby
    Morbidzbaby

    Welcome!! You'll find that this is a great group of people. Most are ex-Jw's, some are still in because of family but don't believe it anymore, some are of other Christian denominations, a lot are atheist/agnostic, some are Pagan, some are Watchtower apologists (but those aren't very plentiful), and once in awhile, you will run into an active JW who is seeking the REAL truth...we have a wide variety here. This place is fun, informative, encouraging...everything the Kingdom Hall is NOT lol. We all encourage reading whatever you can get your hands on about the religion, as well as whatever subjects interest you. We are open to discussion of a huge variety of topics, and most of us strive to present accurate and truthful information from credible sources. Many of us consider this board our "therapy" when we're exiting and trying to get involved in real life outside of the organization. I know just reading posts from a lot of the members here and their struggles, along with the responses from others, has helped me immensely.

    I look forward to getting to know you and helping in any way I can. Again, welcome!!

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