This is disgusting. I read it this way.
"Selma realized that she had the wrong attitude towards the way her husband treated her. She understood that Steve hit her because she was unwisely trying to make a point. Coming to grips with her error and adjusting her attitude brought peace to the family. Eventually, Steve got to the point where he would only hit her when she disrespected his God appointed headship. Instead feeling sorry for herself and focusing on her bruises and pains, Selma resolved to focus on Steve's good traits, such as providing well for the family, and taking care of home maintenance. Truly, these husbands can be "won without a word" if the wife applies bible principles."