The psychology behind recovery/improvement threatening relationships so people overreact in a bad way is so true. It is the same way with setting boundaries. For some reason I thought if you set a boundary correctly the other person would comply. No way.
I am a people pleaser b/c of the Witnesses. Approval means all. Slight rejection is equated with total rejection. Heck, I worry about people I totally despise not liking me. Books could be written about authenticity in relationships. Do I want to be liked for what I am not or like for who I am?