My 1-Year Anniversary as a JWN Member

by dontplaceliterature 21 Replies latest jw friends

  • dontplaceliterature
    dontplaceliterature

    ...is today. It's been a WILD 12 months. I went back to look at my introduction post, and my how things have changed! If it interests you: http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/beliefs/204091/1/Introduction

    I remember feeling really insecure about being part of this group, and also thinking that most of the JWN members were totally nuts but I was willing to have an open mind.

    The deeper I dug, the more I realized that I barely knew anything at all about the WTBTS history, scandals, and the extent of the abuse of power of The Governing Body. I have spent more time reading books (apostate and otherwise) in the last 12 months than I have read in the last 6 years. It is amazing how almost 30 years of training and indoctrination as a Jehovah's Witness can be undone in such a short amount of time. I had a healthy amount of optimism with regard The Organization when I started here, but it is now completely gone. I have absolutely no desire to remain a Jehovah's Witness anymore and I generally can't stand to be around them. Though I still love them very much, my secret knowlege and emotions haunt me when I am in their presence and it is too much work to keep quiet when they discuss something in front of me that I know is total garbage.

    This has also been the hardest year in my life. I'm not a cryer, and boy how I've sobbed over and over this past year - sometimes with my wife, sometimes with my mom, mostly alone. My wife is in no way interested in learning anything negative about the organization, has no desire to leave, and will not talk to me about it. As some of you know, it's very hard not to be able to share your most intimate struggle with your closest friend and partner. There hasn't been a week that has gone by that I haven't thought of just leaving her out of fear that I'm only delaying the inevitable, and I should just get it overwith so I can get on with my life before things get too messy. Now, with a child, that's a much more complicated proposition.

    Everyday, I feel trapped and hopeless. Somedays (the good ones), I feel a flash of courage and determination to break free and live my life. However, the reality of losing my family and destroying them emotionally in the process brings me crashing back down to Earth.

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    I would like to extend a huge THANK YOU to everyone on this forum for helping me open my eyes, realize that I was not crazy to question The Organization, and have hope that I can lead a normal life as an Ex-Jehovah's Witness. I've read some amazing stories here, both heart-warming and heart-breaking. I've made some friends that I hope to meet face-to-face one day (even though I still think most of you are totally nuts ). It's been hard, but it has been enriching.

    I wish all of you the best in 2012.

  • serenitynow!
    serenitynow!

    Happy birthday! lol. I remember my 1 year anniversary. I have come so far, and it is because of the awesome apostates here! I hope things improve for you. Keep hope alive!

  • Jeffro
    Jeffro

    An 'anniversary' is an event that happens each year. A "1-year anniversary" is redundant. It's your first anniversary.

    Though it's less annoying than when people say they're having a 1-week or 1-month 'anniversary'.

  • dontplaceliterature
    dontplaceliterature

    Thanks for your brilliant contribution, Jeffro. Point taken.

  • serenitynow!
    serenitynow!
    Thanks for your brilliant contribution, Jeffro.

    LoL!

  • 3dogs1husband
    3dogs1husband

    I feel you on the emotional ride ....it rings sooo true. Although I have my husband, and our marriage has never been stronger then the past couple years. It was like a veil to our true personalities was lifted. It was soo amazing to look my husband in the eye and say..you really dont believe there is a God do you? .....lol poor feller never made a good JW. lol My only thought is too keep trying to find her true personality. Encourge her PASSION in life - encourge growth. Fill her life with all the things she would have loved if she wasnt living for the new system. Wish you Peace and a happy 2012

  • serenitynow!
    serenitynow!
    It was soo amazing to look my husband in the eye and say..you really dont believe there is a God do you? .....lol poor feller never made a good JW.

    It seems so simple, but the fact that he felt safe enough to admit that without having to fear reprisal is so great!

  • Jeffro
    Jeffro
    Thanks for your brilliant contribution, Jeffro. Point taken.

    I hope so. I guess we'll find out on your '2-year anniversary'.

  • Lozhasleft
    Lozhasleft

    Its not easy becoming 'conscious' is it? I do hope there is a way you can eventually reach your wife so that she can break free with you. Moreover, you now have to battle to prevent your child from becoming entrenched. I wish you well DPL.

    Loz x

  • Band on the Run
    Band on the Run

    I confused your threads. May I ask if you still worry about possible lurkers being turned away by the often strident tone? You are on a journey. It is hard to see each individual moment. EAsily written. Now I need to apply it in my life.

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