The 1995 change is clarified in the 1 June 1997 WT p28 QFR
So the recent information in The Watchtower about “this generation” did not change our understanding of what occurred in 1914. But it did give us a clearer grasp of Jesus’ use of the term “generation,” helping us to see that his usage was no basis for calculating—counting from 1914—how close to the end we are.
Quote it, then ask her to explain what it means. Don't do it for her.