Why I Became an Inactive Witness (page 2)

JBean

Hi TheStar, and welcome. Well... unfortunately I can't e-mail you (for obvious anonymity reasons) but I can tell you that it's not easy. Constantly putting up with questions as to why I don't attend, don't I feel well?, you know you should do this or that... etc. It does try my patience... but I'm hoping that SLOWLY, by VERY VERY small things I say on occasion to them, will help wake them up. I also live in a different area than most of my family... so that helps... they don't really have any contact with anyone from "my" congregation, so they don't know the full scoop of what's (not) going on! I wish I could say more to help, but right now I'm still figuring it all out too. My advice is to just keep coming here! These folks have been through it all and their experiences are a huge help. Also helpful are the sites run by members here, such as Randy's. Keep searching! Hope to hear more of your "story" soon... hugs... Jbean

TheStar

Hugs to you too JBean.

You can read more about my story at this thread that I started last week.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=21720&site=3

I wish I could join you guys in the chat and get to know you all better but our system is monitored here at work and we are prohibited to go into chat rooms. I can't do it in the evenings from home because my husband wouldn't appreciate it.

What kind of small things can I say to my husband that may help snap him out? I haven't read Steven Hassan's book yet, I guess I should start there. Maybe I should start a thread about this. I need help in this area.

JBean

I'd suggest also reading Crisis of Conscience by Ray Franz. Also his follow-up book, In Search of Christian Freedom. That will help you personally get "centered" around what you're feeling and believing before you begin to try to speak with others. "Crisis" is kind of like a "look behind the curtain" book... you get a first-hand experience of what really goes on in Brooklyn.

TheStar

I'm ordering it right now. I don't know why I've kept putting it off. I hope Amazon ships overnight! Hehehe.. :)

ChristFollower

Hi, I'm new to the board. I thought I would chime in on this thread, hope you don't mind. I became inactive - I just stopped going. It is easier on the other relatives still in (speaking from my experience). DA and DF puts up big mental barriers that are harder to get through than just not going. Their defenses are down (hope the WT isn't reading this) so it is easier to talk to them and discuss things.

After I left, I drifted spiritually. Which is to say that I was so brainwashed against Churches that I would feel like a stereotypical vampire at just the sight of a cross in a Church. Besides that, Churches reminded me of being at a WT meeting...

I would say study a lot. I ran into an educated Christian and studied a lot of theology and was converted to Christianity (not that I don't still have residual issues from be in the WT for so long). I have found that even philosophy and logic have helped a lot in putting my head back together. I probably didn't help any :) but these forums are like therapy that I indulge in from time to time.

God Bless

jesussaves

I'm in the same boat as Christfollower. To answer the question about how an ex-jw can go to another Christian religion, I feel that as a JW I was NOT a Christian and now I have converted to Christianity. I found out that just about everything JWs said about churches in general was a big fat lie. I figured that if the elders wanted to keep me from the church, then there must be something GOOD about it!

somebody

I'm in the same boat as Christfollower. To answer the question about how an ex-jw can go to another Christian religion, I feel that as a JW I was NOT a Christian and now I have converted to Christianity.

I too feel that JWs are NOT Christian. I can't find a thing about their teachings that are. besides just speaking the words that Jesus died for out sins in a rehearsed and dictated sentence, I never was allowed to talk about Jesus or the gospel/good news he spoke about in the Bible. I even noticed that the "society" would capitalize the "S" for society when putting their name in print, yet never capitalized the H or S when printing anything about God's Holy Spirit.
One can convert from JWism, to Christianity, in their own time, away from worshipping a printing factory. Any JW who doesn't must find it a heavy burden in more ways than one,trying to serve 2 masters. The yoke must never be light for those who try. And being in a religion, does not constitute a Christian.

peace,
somebody

Satanus

After 30 yrs of wt slavery, w the help of franz' first book, the buble burst. I saw that the wt refused to believe simple statements in the bible. Christian churches did accept those statements. So i enjoyed going to churches and being a christian for 2 yrs. Then, i realized the bible has many, many problems, and that bubble also had to be popped.

SS

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