Some recent threads have touched me emotionally and prompted me to reflect. When I think back to when I joined this forum, I was still struggling to come to terms with such a lot of pain. It has definitely been a journey, but there is so much I've come to terms with. You lovely people here have helped me so much and I thank you.
I want to encourage newbies to continue the fight to freedom and those unhappy to make life changes while they still can.
Don't do what I did and stay too long in a toxic relationship which ends up poisoning the very heart of you, walk away..fight the addiction to the drama...the false hopes of fixing another human being..fight the fear of leaving...and the pressure from outside to stay. Walk away and don't settle until you find someone to love you the way you deserve to be loved. The rewards of such are priceless, I promise.
If you feel unfulfilled or you've wasted years without higher education cos of the WTBS, don't leave it any longer, go and follow your dream or the career you always wanted. Be pro-active in making your life better, in becoming a rounded human being. It will change your perception of yourself and the world around you. It will make you whole.
If loved ones shun you or slander you, do what you can to make it right, but if it doesn't work don't keep beating yourself up, and don't become a punchbag for them. Often the ones who want you to be perfect are the least perfect themselves. Spend your time and your life with ones who love and appreciate you. Trust me it does you good. Be yourself and let others take it or leave it.
If you have a relationship with your god don't let anything or anyone affect it. Let the atheists enjoy their atheism, respect their choices, but don't let anyone denigrate you and your personal beliefs. You are just as entitled to them as anyone else.
Loz x