Joliette:
You are absolutely right. I feel it is because they are the most jealous, small-minded group of people I have ever met!! I learned more about jealousy, covetousness and small-mindedness from the religion than I ever would have elsewhere. These people would put many so-called worldly people to shame in this regard! On the few occasions I made a meeting as a "fader" (the memorial and such) I was inundated with questions and comments about how good I look and my clothing. Of course, I was well-dressed. Why would I not be?
I also know what you mean about how they tell you "why get married...?" because they tried to do this to me. However, I noticed the ones saying this were older married women/widows living in relative comfort. They had it all and expected to have it again in "da nu system", but yet they tell a young girl (supporting herself) that she should not get married. I now know it is because they want single drudges around to do favors or to be a "sidekick" to these women. And many of these ignoramuses were the ones who criticized me because I work full-time. Meanwhile, they are collecting a pension some man worked forty years to earn!! So stupid! The hypocrisy is simply mind-boggling!!
So, if you leave the religion, the spiteful people are not wishing you well at all. Of course, I now know most of these jealous people were never my friends in the first place. Good riddance.